- Crista Caruso
- Aug 15, 2018
- 2 min read
Men and women have both masculine and feminine powers. We need to draw from these powers correctly in order to find happiness. Like so many things in life, it's all about balance.
The male or masculine power is confidence, motivation, endurance, strength, and everything that you need to get things done by yourself. It gives you the tools to accomplish tasks, achieve goals, and reach success.
How can women use their male power? Women use their male power at work or when they encounter something that they need to accomplish themselves. Women will find great success by using their male power but to feel lasting joy and love, they should draw from the female power more often than their male power.
The female or feminine power draws others to you, helping you accomplish your goals and get what you need from others. Unlike the male power, when you use the collaborative female power, you utilize help from others instead of accomplishing a goal on your own.
How can men use their female power? Men use their female power in many situations to help them get what they need. This can be anything from getting their team at work to help them get things done to choosing to have more room and comfort by flying first class. Men need to be able to go to their female side without suppressing their male side. As a man, you should prioritize your male power and use your female power to support it.
If you balance your male and female power, you will find happiness in many aspects of life. This yin yang of energy will help you to excel at everything from your relationships to your job to your inner happiness.
John Gray, the author of "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus", discusses this topic in the video below:
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- Crista Caruso
- Aug 13, 2018
- 2 min read
Our words and actions can have a huge effect on our relationships. Men might seem strong but we can be very sensitive and vulnerable at times. It is important to try be conscious of this when you are talking to a man. Even words that are meant in good fun can take a toll on our self esteem. EZ Dating Coach, Mike Goldstein, recently experienced this first hand. To combat seasonal depression, Mike decided to take Brazilian jiu-jitsu classes and he was excited to share this news with my friends at a party. In front of everyone, his girlfriend's friend told him that if they wrestled, she could totally kick his butt. He was really taken back by this comment. It made him uncomfortable and it seemed like it made everyone around them uncomfortable, too.
Mike has a great sense of humor and he is a huge advocate of equal rights for everyone. So why did this joke bother him so much? On a psychological and emotional level, when a women competes with a man, especially an alpha male, it makes him feel emasculated and small. Even if the man is laughing and understanding that it's just a joke, he is still probably feeling hurt inside. It is not because he is sexist or he doesn't think that you're funny. It's because the idea that men have to be strong is so deeply ingrained in him, any comments suggesting otherwise make him feel like less of a man.
Another great example of bad competing would be if a man was excited to tell a woman that he got a raise at work. She might think that relating to him and sharing a story about someone she knows' successes at work would be a great idea but it would actually be a big mistake. It would deflate his ego and make him feel bad about himself. The woman is trying to share and relate to him but the man is just left feeling like his achievements are underappreciated and not good enough.
The worst thing that a woman can do is compete with a man or share something that makes him feel like he has to compete. When he's with you, he wants to feel good and he wants to feel like he is good enough. Let him know that you appreciate him, you are proud of him, and praise him for his successes.
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- Crista Caruso
- Aug 2, 2018
- 3 min read
EZ Dating Coach, Mike Goldstein, shared a story about his friend. She had been on a few dates with a guy and she felt like they were really hitting it off. She was worried because when she felt this way in the past, she was left feeling disappointed and depressed when they never made it past date 3 or 4. She really wanted this relationship to work.
Dating someone new can fill you with a mix of emotions. You're anxious and nervous and excited all at the same time. If you are like Mike's friend and you want the relationship to keep growing, there are a few simple steps that you can take. You gotta N.A.A.B him! Make him feel needed, appreciated, accepted, and set sexy boundaries.
Needed: Men are drawn to women that make them feel needed. Even the smallest of requests can have a large impact. For example, simply asking your man to grab the sugar for you when you are out for coffee will make him feel needed. Men love completing tasks and they love feeling important and helpful.
Appreciation: It is important to thank and praise your man. These kind words will make him feel good about himself. If your man brings you the sugar for your coffee, thank him and call him a gentleman. He will love that he did something to make you happy and your words of appreciation make him feel rewarded for a job well done.
Accepted: Everyone wants to feel accepted. Be open and understanding with your man. Accept him for who he is and don't try to change him. If a man feels like it's ok to be himself, he will feel comfortable and relaxed. We all have different hobbies, quirks, personality traits, and ways of doing things. We have to love and accept ourselves and we have to love and accept our partners.
Boundaries: It is important that we don't push ourselves or our partners to do anything that we aren't ready to do. Sometimes, women feel like they have to have sex with a guy to keep him interested in her. It is up to you to set your boundaries. Men who are looking for a relationship actually find boundaries to be very sexy. If the topic of sex arrives, simply let him know that you aren't ready to take things to that level but you would love to keep seeing each other. Let him know that you are really enjoying your time together and you are excited to get to know him better. Complimenting him won't only show him that you are interested in him, it will assure him that you are not rejecting him, you just aren't ready yet. If you become exclusive, then you will be ready to be intimate with him. Set your boundaries, compliment him, and give him the motivation to continue moving forward with your relationship.
There you have it! Now go on and N.A.A.B. your man!
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