- Crista Caruso
- Jul 17, 2018
- 3 min read
Are you in a relationship but you just aren't sure if he feels the same way about you that you feel about him? Here are 4 signs that he is falling in love with you:
1) He makes future plans with you
This is huge! If he is booking trips or planning to go to events with you, he's expecting that you guys are still going to be together months from now. One of the biggest ways to tell that you are in love with someone is to think about the future. If you can't picture it without that person, that is a pretty good sign that you are in love! By making future plans with you he is showing you that when he looks to his future, you are in it.
2) He introduces you to his friends and family
Many men don't tell their friends and family about a girl unless they are serious about her. If he introduces you to his friends and family, especially if he introduces you to his parents, that is a big sign that he is falling in love with you. It shows that you are important to him and he wants to bring you into his inner circle. It is also a big step if he wants to meet your friends and family. He is looking to get to know you better and he wants to bond with the people that you are close to.
3) He will do things with/for you that he doesn't want to do
This is part of the transition from being single to being in a relationship. When you are single, you only have to report to yourself. When you are in a relationship, you now have to report to 2 people; yourself and your significant other. You don't just worry about yourself and your needs, you have to worry about your partner and their needs. If you see him doing things that he might not necessarily want to do, that's a sign that he loves you. He is putting what you want to do above what he wants to do. He might skip watching a football game to go run errands with you or maybe he'll go see a movie that he isn't interested in because he knows you've been wanting to see. He loves you and he wants to make you happy. You are important and your happiness is a priority for him.
4) He keeps dating you even after you refuse to sleep with him
This is important early on in the relationship. If you can get a guy to make it to date 5 or 6 without having sex with him, that shows you that he really likes you and he wants to get to know you. Making him wait will show you that he is not just looking to have sex. He is really interested in having a relationship with you.
There's no need to guess whether he loves you or he loves you not! His actions will show you how he feels about you.
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- Crista Caruso
- Jul 13, 2018
- 3 min read
When something upsets you, it is perfectly normal for you to feel angry about it. There is a way, however, for you to resolve the conflict without you or your partner flying off the handle. In this video, John Gray, the author of "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus", shares tips to help you move past the issue in a calm and healthy way.
One technique that men can use to help extinguish a heated situation with their partner is to let the woman talk through the issue and listen closely to what she says. Let her tell you how she feels and ask questions to help you understand those feelings. Let her know that you hear her and agree to end the conversation there.
Women feel better when they talk things out but the same usually can't be said for men. Because women find relief in talking about the issue, they think that men will feel better once they talk, too. It is important that women don't push their men to talk about his feelings. When you agree to end the conversation, give each other space and move forward with positivity.
Another mistake that many women make is submitting to the man and placing all of the blame on themselves. When a woman does this, she is giving up her authentic self in order to nourish the man. This attempt at calming him down only hurts him in the long run because it doesn't help him manage his anger. It only destroys the equality of the relationship.
Biologically, when a man is angry, his testosterone turns into estrogen, filling his brain with emotion and making it difficult to think clearly. Next, the blood goes to the limbic system or "the monkey brain". This middle part of the brain is full of mirror cells. These mirror cells will cause him to reflect whatever he sees. This results in a ping pong game with his partner. If she has 5 complaints about him, then he has 5 complaints about her. It goes back and forth, making everything worse.
So what can men do to combat this issue? He can listen to his partner and make her feel safe to tell him how she feels. Next, he can do something to increase his testosterone. He can do pushups, meditate, watch a football game... anything to distract his attention away from whatever is upsetting him. Once he is feeling better, he can go back to his partner with love and understanding. After a fight, she might be worried that he doesn't love her anymore. He should show her affection and kindness and they can move forward with the knowledge that they overcame a conflict together. Their conflict resolution skills will get better and better, strengthening the relationship.
When a conflict arises...try to stay cool and listen to each other. Agree to take a step back and not let things blow up. Understand that you probably have different methods for dealing with your emotions. Men must understand that women need to talk about their feelings and women must understand that men might not want to talk about theirs. You can resolve the conflict together without letting anger get the best of you.
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- Crista Caruso
- Jul 6, 2018
- 2 min read
While at work, a woman is on her male side and she is forced to suppress her emotions all day. Because all of these emotions are bottled up, when she gets home, the tiniest issue can seem huge and overwhelming. The most damaging thing that a woman can do in a relationship is take all of her stress and frustration out on her partner.
One of EZ Dating Coach, Mike's, friends experienced this issue last year. She was dealing with a lot of stress at work and she and her boyfriend were arguing a lot. It wasn't until Mike helped her take a step back that she realized why they were fighting so often. She was unloading all of the stress of her day onto her boyfriend. She was upset about a lot of things that she encountered during the day but she wasn't able to express any emotions at work. When she got home, after everything built up inside, any little thing would trigger an angry response. A few dirty dishes in the sink would cause her to completely lose it. Her boyfriend felt attacked and judged and even when she wasn't yelling at him, the tension was enough to drive a wedge between them.
There are ways that both women and men can combat these issues. I outlined steps that a woman can take to help change a man's negative behavior through positive actions in my "Instead of Complaining, How Can You Get Men To Change Their Behavior?" blog post. Essentially, when you notice a negative behavior, like being messy... detach from trying to change him, do something that makes you happy, give him the acceptance and trust that he needs, ask for his help, and show him appreciation. Following these steps will help you to calm down and relax and it will help him change the negative behavior through positive reinforcement.
Men can help by being patient, understanding, and supportive. Let your girlfriend know that you are there to listen. If you can't think of any advice to give, DON'T PANIC! You don't have to solve her problems. Just being there and listening is enough. Another way to help is to let her anger pass and don't fuel the fire by having a negative response. Getting angry or defensive will only make things escalate.
Love each other, listen to each other, and stay cool. You'll be one step closer to having this love thing all figured out!
Check out this video for more information on this topic from John Gray, the author of "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus":
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