- Crista Caruso
- Aug 24, 2018
- 2 min read
In the early stages of dating, sometimes men and women aren't on the same page. I know this from personal experience. I met a fantastic woman on OkCupid and things were going great. Over the course of a few dates, we learned a lot about each other. We had a lot in common and the physical attraction was definitely there. Even though it was early it just felt right to ask her to be my girlfriend. She was shocked! It was too soon for her and she was not interested in taking that step yet. I was left feeling rejected and disappointed.
You live and learn, right? So what did I learn? First, let's talk about science! Studies show that men know if they are falling in love with someone after 2 dates. Woman, on the other hand, will know after an average of 14 dates. Why is this? Men tend to feel the physical attraction, get pulled in by her personality, and BAM... they're in love. It's different for women. They need time to feel safe and secure and like they can trust the man before they fall in love with him.
So, how do you know when you should become exclusive? First of all, don't take it too seriously. If you do, it will only put pressure on you and your relationship. Continue casually dating the person and see where it goes. If you want to stop seeing other people, go for it! Let your partner know that you aren't seeing anyone else. If they are ready to take that step, too, great! If not, give them more time. Just make sure that they are interested in becoming exclusive with you in the future.
Ladies, if a man asks you to be exclusive early on in the relationship, it is not a red flag. It's just a sign that he has really fallen for you. He is letting you know that he doesn't want to be with anyone else. He only wants to be with you. If you aren't ready yet, that is totally fine. Take it as a compliment and let him know how you're feeling. If you like him and want to continue dating to see where it goes, be open and explain that to him. If you don't see it ever ending up that way, let him know that.
You will know that it is time to be exclusive when you both don't want to date anyone else. You both feel like you've found someone that is really special and you are ready to commit to them. This is a big step but this is also a wonderful step. When you are fully committed to someone, you are showing that person how much they mean to you. You want to love that person and that person alone. You want to be with that person and that person alone. You are ready to be exclusive.
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- Crista Caruso
- Aug 22, 2018
- 3 min read
There are 3 things that men really want. These 3 things will make him feel important, valued, and happy. They will also make you irresistible to him!
So what are the 3 things that he really wants?
1) He wants to feel needed. In today's society, women are stronger and more independent than ever. They rely less on men and more on themselves to get things done. This has lead to a shift in the dynamics between men and women. Gone are the days when the men were the sole providers for the family. Women no longer rely on their men for financial stability. Women are also doing a lot more in terms of hands on projects at home. They can also hire professionals to help with moving or installing things in their home. This makes men feel like they aren't useful.
So, how can you make your man feel needed? It doesn't have to be anything big. A tiny request is all it takes! Asking him to help carry, open, or move something will make him feel strong and helpful. You can even simply ask for some advice. He will love that you are interested in his opinion and it will mean a lot to him knowing that he helped you. His help will not only benefit him, it will also take things off of your plate and help to alleviate some stress in your life.
2) He wants to feel appreciated. After your man helps you with something, show him that you are thankful for his help. Your kind words are a reward for a job well done, making him feel loved and valued. Everyone wants to feel important and everyone wants to feel like they matter. Show your man how much he means to you and how much you appreciate him by recognize and acknowledge his help.
3) He wants to feel accepted. We all have different and unique things about our personalities. These different traits and idiosyncrasies make us who we are. When you feel like someone accepts you just the way you are, you can be truly happy. Show your man that you love him for who he is. Accept him, quirks and all!
Remember, you are both independent but you can still show one another that you need each other. You are both important and special and you should make sure that you let each other know that. You are thankful to have each other and you appreciate everything that you do for one another and you should show it with your words and actions. You know that you have your differences but you should let each other know that your love is unconditional. If you can do this, you are a team and together, there isn't anything that you can't do!
Men are drawn to women who make them feel needed, appreciated, and accepted. So go on! Ask him for help, acknowledge his efforts, and love him for who he is. It will make him really happy!
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When a woman is facing an issue and she needs to talk, sometimes it's hard to know where she should turn. Should she reach out to her significant other or should she reach out to her girlfriends? The answer is...both! When women share with men, they strengthen their pair bond and they feel connected. When women share with other women, they strengthen their social bond and they feel understood. You might be surprise to learn that the day of her cycle actually has a lot to do with it, too. Check out the video below to hear more insights on this topic from John Gray, the author of "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus".
The differences between men and women are vast and endless. We have different bodies, life experiences, societal expectations and pressures...The list goes on and on. Even our greatest attempts to understand what our partners are going through can be an exercise in futility. This can make communication a challenging and frustrating endeavor. Our differences are often looked at as a negative thing but they can actually be quite wonderful. These differences make things more interesting and allow us to gain new perspectives on things. A man and a woman could look at the same situation and see different ways of dealing with it. If your partner is struggling with something, sharing your unique take on it can really help to resolve the issue. Sometimes, all it takes is a fresh set of eyes, looking at the problem different angle.
During the 5 days around ovulation, women are better off sharing with a man instead of sharing with other women. When women share with each other, they can relate to each other and offer caring and understanding words of support. This is important and beneficial on many levels. So why is it particularly important to share with a man instead during those 5 days. When a woman shares with a man who cannot relate to what it's like to be a woman, it gives her a boost knowing that she connected with someone who is different from her. To bridge the gap, she has to clearly articulate and explain her feelings to the man. When they connect, or better yet, when he helps her to resolve the issue, this is great for pair bonding. She feels loved and supported and she appreciates his help and he feels happy knowing that he could help her.
Now that we learned why it is important for women to talk to their men, let's learn why it is important for women to talk to their female friends. Women have similar experiences and face a lot of the same issues so they can often offer great advice. Even if they don't have any advice to offer, just letting the woman know that she isn't alone can be very reassuring. She's been there...she's been through that...she understands... This can be very helpful and encouraging.
Women sharing with other women is not only a great way for a woman to receive support and resolve her issues, it is also great for social bonding. We've learned that during the 5 days around ovulation, it is better for the woman to reach out to a man for advice. During the other 18 days of the month, it is better for her to reach out to other women. It helps to lower her testosterone and increase her estrogen. Talking with friends and doing things for herself will then increase her progesterone, making her feel better. She doesn't only feel understood, supported, and heard by confiding in other women. She physically feels better due to the changes in her hormones.
So, when a woman needs to talk, who should she turn to? Men and women, especially on particular days, can both offer a lot of help and benefits. Her significant other will be able to offer unique insights and her female friends will be able to understand what she's going through. Talking to a man will lead to her feeling more connected to him and talking to her female friends will lead to an increase in Progesterone, making her feel better. Either way, reaching out and talking to men and women will lighten the load, lift her spirits, and help her get through negative situations and feelings.
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