- Crista Caruso
- Sep 14, 2018
- 2 min read
The number one biggest turn off for a man in a relationship is fighting with their partner. When people are fighting, they aren't thinking clearly. The stress and the anger are taking over, making it difficult to resolve any issues. Words that come from a place of discontent fly back and forth, fueling the fire, making everything worse, and ultimately hurting each other. When you are arguing, it's difficult to see past the argument. If it is a good and healthy relationship and you want to move forward together, that's when you need to do whatever you can to work it out.
So, how do you work it out? You need to come up with a plan. Once things have cooled down and you and your partner are both in a happy, good place, discuss a strategy for how you would like to deal with an argument. Personally, I find it helpful to step away and return once I have calmed down. When coming up with our game plan, my girlfriend and I decided to utilize my take-a-breather tactic and it really works for us!
Come up with a plan with your man so that when you have an argument or disagreement, you both know what to do. Men love strategies and formulas and they will love that you both came up with a healthy way to get through your issues. This will make you both feel safer, more confident, and happier in your relationship. You won't only feel closer than ever as you come together as a team, the turn off of fighting will be replaced with the turn on of peaceful, smooth, and easy teamwork.
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- Crista Caruso
- Sep 11, 2018
- 2 min read
I was wondering why some people, specifically men, love being in a relationship while others enjoy being single. What is it about the single life that makes some people prefer it to being in a relationship?
EZ Dating Coach, Mike Goldstein, went out into the world and I polled single men to try to get to the bottom of it. The thing that kept coming up, time and time again, was that they enjoy the freedom of being single. Another general consensus was that many of them would like to be in a relationship but they didn't want to risk losing that freedom. They like that they don't have to answer to anyone and they can go where ever they want and do whatever they want. They were worried that this would change if they were in a relationship.
This teaches us a lot. Now that we know that the fear of losing their freedom holds a lot of men back from being in a relationship, you can use this knowledge to help put his mind at ease. You can do this by allowing him to make his own decisions. This by no means suggests that you aren't vocal about your wants and needs. It just means that you help him to maintain sight of his wants and needs, too.
You can use this knowledge in lots of different ways. For example, you can encourage your man to go out and have fun with his friends. This stress-relieving male-bonding time is important and it will show him that he can still maintain his friendships and have fun with the guys. You can also let him choose the location of a date by asking him what he's in the mood to do or where he would like to go.
Here is how you can earn double awesome girlfriend points... Let's say you are really craving Italian food. Tell your man that you would love to go to dinner at an Italian restaurant but let him pick which one. This will help him to feel a sense of freedom while also letting him feel like he's making you happy.
Giving your man the freedom that he craves will make him feel happy and comfortable. Show him that being a relationship doesn't mean that he loses his freedom. He has so much to gain in a healthy relationship and he can hold onto his freedom and everything else that he needs to be truly happy.
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- Crista Caruso
- Sep 6, 2018
- 3 min read
Society teaches me that they always have to be strong. "Suck it up!"..."Be a man!"..."What are you, a sissy?"... Words like this have been spoken to men and ingrained in them since they were children. They are taught that sharing their emotions is a sign of weakness. This could not be further from the truth. It actually takes a lot of strength and courage to open up.
Men are human and they need to feel free to share their feelings. Women are allowed to talk about their feelings and men should be able to do the same. Society has made this a place where men don't feel like it's OK to open up. We are going to fix that...at least when it comes to your relationship. Here's how you can help your man open up:
Step 1) Make a safe place for your man to share his feelings:
When your man is happy and in a good place, let him know that it is OK for him to share his feelings with you. Whether he is stressed, depressed, anxious, sad, or happy, you are there for him. Tell him that it will make you happy if he shares with you and doesn't bottle up his emotions.
Talking to him about this when he is in a good mood will ensure that he will feel more comfortable opening up when negative circumstances and emotions put him in a bad mood.
Step 2) When he opens up to you, show him a lot of love and support:
When you see that he is in a bad mood, let him know that you are there if he wants to talk about it. Don't pressure him to talk. Just let him feel free to confide in you if he wants to. He might feel comfortable opening up in the safe space that you have created for him. If he isn't ready, that is completely OK. If he is able to open up, really listen to what he is saying. Offer words of kindness and support and let him know that you are there for him. He will love the feeling of knowing that you are in his corner and unloading all of the negative feelings will make him feel better.
Step 3) Thank him for sharing:
After he opens up, thank him for sharing with you and let him know that you are always there for him. Opening up and sharing is also helpful for the relationship. It doesn't only strengthen your bond, it reassures the woman that everything is OK between the two of you. When a man is bottling up his emotions, he might become distant, leaving the woman worried that something is wrong between them. Sharing let's her know that the problem exists outside of the relationship and talking together makes them both feel more connected to one another. Show him that you appreciate how open he is being and make him feel comfortable sharing in the future.
We all have complex emotions and bottling them up doesn't only take a toll on us emotionally, it can actually make you physically sick. Helping your man open up will help him work through his emotions and it will bring you closer together.
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