How To Find A Man At A Holiday Party

December has rolled around. Unlike 2014 the weather has been absolutely gorgeous. Fall has actually felt like Fall and here in the greater New York City area we are still gallivanting outside and have not yet went into hibernation.

Nice weather means more people out and about. Not to mention, December means Holiday Parties. If you are anything like me, being single during the holiday can be very lonely. (Fortunately I have a GF this year) However, nothing can keep you warm like the hope of a promising new love interest in your life. So in this article, I am going to give you all the tools you need to approach, meet, build a spark, and even close a phone number with that cute guy at the holiday party.

Step 1

Talk to him.

I know, we have all heard it before, men approach women. Blah, Blah, Blah. This theory is terrible and in the words of Mr. Wonderful from Shark Tank, "Take it behind the Barn and Shoot It!"

If you want a man this holiday season, GO TALK TO HIM!

Since I am a man, and can honestly say I am very rarely hit on, but the times that I am, I am ecstatic! The woman just made my life so much easier! I didn't have to think of something to say. I didn't have to pretend I could read her signals and know if she wanted to talk to me or not. Nope, none of it. She talked to me! Simply Amazing!

Ladies, wondering what to say. KISS - Keep It Simple Stupid

Say, "Hi, What is your name?" OR "Hi, How are you?"

No! There are no other openers worth learning. That is it!

Go from there. If the energy is good and the conversation flows, enjoy your new friend.

If it doesn't seem like he is interested, "It was great meeting you, I am going to get back to my friends, chat with you later maybe."

Now, if the conversation wasn't great, it doesn't mean you shouldn't give this person a second chance later in the evening. If you are walking by, feel free to stop by, say hi again and give it another try if you want. (Sometimes people are not expecting to make a new friends and aren't prepared for a stimulating conversation OR they are in a bad mood) Maybe the 2nd go around will be better.

Step 2

"I asked him his name now what?"

We have all been there. We just met a new person and all of sudden neither party has anything to say. The conversation goes silent, awkward, and maybe even uncomfortable.

Alright ladies, I am going to teach you how to resolve the awkward silence with an extremely advanced skill that is very counterintuitive so brace yourselves.

Now, since you approached the man, did the hard part as far as I am concerned. It is his time, to man up and keep the conversation going, especially if he is interested in you.

What I want you to do is stare at him and keep staring for 5 seconds and maybe even give him a gesture as if to lip sync the words "Sooooooooo"

This should force him to break the silence and ask a question or form some sort of a sentence to keep the conversation going.

However, if for some reason he has nothing to say I would have a few canned questions at your disposal.

1. Where are you originally from?

2. What do you do for work?

3. Are you enjoying the party?

I am usually willing to give people the stare twice in a conversation, if they won't be active members in our conversation, I will use the closing from earlier and politely excuse myself.

Step 3

How to Exchange Phone Numbers!

"Well, it has been great talking to you. I wish there was a way that we could see each other again..." Stare at him, bat the eyelashes, do whatever you wonderful creatures do.

He should ask for your number at this point. If for some reason this guy is brain dead, unfortunately many of the relationship oriented men are. Just go for it, "Would you like to exchange numbers?"

There you have ladies, Bingo Bango, You just landed a promising phone number at your Holiday Party. You go Girl!

Happy Holidays.

Your Dating Coach,

Mike

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Love Letter to My Girlfriend

I have a confession. I wrote a love letter to my girlfriend last night. Why did I write it? Simple. I had just spent the most amazing weekend with her. We rode our bikes over the Brooklyn Bridge, had lunch at Roberta's in Bushwhick, played mini-golf at Pier 25, and finally saw "The Martian" in 3D. We had a blast, and throughout the process I got to know her a lot better. The dates even made me care more about her.

Now, why am I telling you this? Also, simple.

1. It is possible to find a partner (Trust me, if my selfish, dumb butt could do it, SO CAN YOU!)

2. If you have a partner, maybe things are getting a bit predictable...If so, Plan A DATE FOR YOUR PARTNER, Next, write your partner a love letter.

Why are you doing this?

1. Planning a date takes effort. Effort shows you care.

2. A Love letter forces you to look inside yourself, figure out why you care about your partner, and the words on a written page is a proclamation and documentation of your affection (Your partner will love this) It doesn't matter if you are a terrible writer, he/she will be crazy about it. (Shoot, I am a horrible writer and for some reason thousands of people read my blog) The partner that ADORES YOU, will appreciate any attempt at a love letter.

3. The Love Letter also takes effort. Once again, effort still shows to your partner that you care. Caring for your partner is good! :)

Now, I know this wasn't one of my most profound articles. However, sometimes I think we all need a little hope. I am hoping that this article makes you realize that if this horrible writer, reality TV show loving guy can find someone so can you!

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Are A lot of Options Helping or Harming Your Love Life?

Brian rolls into his plush New York City midtown office at 8:30AM to start his work day. He takes a sip of coffee and opens up email. By 9AM he has caught up with email and is ready to start the day. WAIT! Tinder time.

Swipe Right, Swipe Right, Swipe Right, maybe an occasional Swipe Left for good measure. Match, match, soon to be match, and so on.

He slides into the matches section of tinder and has 13 new ladies he is yet to type to and three girls he is mid conversation with. By noon he has planned a date for Tuesday at 8PM, and a date for 7PM on Thursday followed by a date at 9PM Thursday (Two in One Night!). In case you are wondering, yes this does happen and yes this is more the norm than not happening, especially in the city that doesn't sleep, NYC.

The Data

Now, if Brian is averaging 3 dates per week. In one year he will go on about 156 dates. However, Brian has been single for three years. Thus, Brian has been on about 468 dates. WOAH! That is a lot of dates! Brian is a busy man.

If Brian has met 468 women, do you think it is possible that maybe, just maybe one of these women should have been a great match for him? Well... I hope so! However, for some reason Brian is still single. Now, Brian is not single by choice. He candidly does want a girlfriend, but just like EVERYONE ELSE, he does not want to feel like he is settling. Due to women always looking bigger and brighter from a far he keeps dating new girls and doesn't give good matches a fair shake.

The Findings

Unfortunately, or fortunately, countless psychology studies have proven that when the human brain has more than three options it becomes extremely difficult to make a decision. Thus, when you introduce online dating, everyone has access to countless dating options. All these options lead to indecision or what I like to call, "Could I do better syndrome?"

If you have, "could I do better syndrome?" you are going to knit pick everything about your potential partners. Well," he only makes six figures, I was really hoping for a guy that makes 250k plus. His face is shaven, I want a guy with a manly beard," and so on.

What YOU Should Do!

So I guess the million dollar question is, How Do You Keep a Guys Attention?

1. Be interested, not interesting on your date. This is key. People love to talk about themselves.

Ask him questions about anything you are genuinely interested about. Now here is the important part, make sure you hold eye contact and truly listen actively. Hang on what he is saying, assuming you are interested give him raw emotions that are vivid and easily seen on your facial expressions. If he feels you are excited about what is coming out of his mouth he will be much more excited to take the positive interested girl on a second date than some random girl who may be boring and potentially a poor conversationalist.

2. Keep Him Wondering Sexually - 90% of my women clients no matter what I say struggle with no sex until monogamy.

I don't fault them, I don't judge them, and frankly many times the guy sticks around anyway. But, the common denominator of when man stick around is simple. The sex always happens after he has already made up his mind that you are the girl for him.

I am a broken record on this but if he is talking about meeting family, friends, and booking future vacations he is certain of you.

If you are not 100% sure he has made up his mind about you, Please do not have sex yet. I am not saying this because I don't want you to experience pleasure but because men whether they want to admit it or not feel like kings of the world when they finally get laid from a girl that made them work for it.

Men want to feel like they did something no other man on the world could accomplish. (Obviously most of you have sex men before, but you want to portray to your man that you don't just give yourself to everyone)

His feeling of accomplishment coupled with good conversation, some mutual interests, and fun dates together should keep a man coming back for more.

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