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What To Do If A Guy Stops Texting You

There are few things in life that are more annoying to the relationship-oriented girl than a guy who isn’t texting her! As a Matchmaker, Dating & Relationship Coach, as well as a relationship-oriented female myself, I am both professionally and personally acquainted with how widespread and frustrating this behavior-or lack thereof-really is. Whether the guy who is guilty as charged is your boyfriend, the guy you’ve been casually dating, or the guy you hooked up with last night at the bar, you may find yourself feeling disappointed, depressed, angry, or anywhere in between. While everyone’s circumstances are unique, and there is no-one-size-fits-all approach that is guaranteed to get any guy chasing after you, here are the strategies that will be most successful.

Ignore The Guy

Its ironic that my friend and colleague, EZ Dating Coach, Mike Goldstein, just asked me to write about this topic, because I recently had the unpleasant experience of this happening to me! A guy (who I have quite some history with) was supposed to text me later on one day, and he never did. My solution? I ignored it, went on with my day, and responded to his text the next day by calling him on FaceTime— at a time when I knew I looked extra fabulous! I'll show him. While I’d like to think it was my good looks and charm that hooked my guy back in, I know it was really the way my ignoring his ignoring me re-captured his interest.

Because I fought the urge to hit him with a lengthy text or voice message calling him out on his bullshit, he was left wondering why I didn’t contact him! Did I notice? Did I care? What was I doing? Who was I with?** And then he wanted me. Of course, men always want what they have to chase! That is why ignoring a guy-though seemingly counter-intuitive- works like magic. By the way, after my “text offender” reached out to me and we chatted a bit, I, then, casually brought up his lack of texting. You didn’t think I was really going to let him get away with that, did you?

Ignoring the guy is definitely my favorite approach. Its really the only way we ladies can see if he is interested enough to pursue us. Since I believe that men-real men and not immature man- boys-will go after the woman they truly want, I like to sit back and let the man do the work—especially in the early stages of the relationship or at whatever stage the relationship could benefit from giving him the thrill of the chase. When you really like and/or have unbelievable chemistry with the guy, this is easier said than done. Obviously. You'll want to reach out to him and make things right!