Mike Goldstein
Meeting men during the different phases of your life can vary from being incredible easy to rather difficult. However, at most phases of your life, you are looking for quality over quantity which can certainly be a very daunting task.
But, let me show you how to do it for folks 21-75.
Step 1
In my humble opinion I think the first step is defining what a QUALITY guy looks like for you. I would accomplish this by making a list of every possibly quality you want in a man. Next, I would shrink the list to your top 5 qualities. Now, moving forward you will only pursue men that have your top 5. After a first date, you will look at your list and if the guy has your 5, you will agree to a 2nd date, if he doesn't have your 5, then he won't' qualify for a 2nd date. Easy peezy right!?
Step 2
Now that you have a quality man defined, it is time to figure out how you want to meet this guy. As far as I can tell there is almost an unlimited way to meet men. Some examples: Grocery shopping, ice skating, workout classes, online dating, through friends, religious organizations, meetup groups, Brazilian jui jitsui, running groups, travel groups, and the list goes on for some time. Which one of these methods excites you?
If the list is daunting and you don't know what to do, let me put you into 1 of 2 categories.
Category
1 - Introverted or Just Prefer to Meet Men In the Comfort of Your Home
2 - Extroverted and Prefer to Meet Guys In Person
If you are category 1. I would highly suggest rocking online dating. If you are going to do online dating, I would suggest doing it my way. My was is the most efficient and successful strategy in the country. If this is interesting to you, buckle up, because I am going to rock your world with this.
If you don't want to do online dating, no big deal. Shoot down to my ideas for category 2 folks.
But, if you want to do online dating, HERE WE GO!
Okay, first off. If you are going to do anything, you should do it in the most efficient manner possible. Time is wildly valuable and if you are inefficient than you are wasting your valuable time. That is why I researched and eventually built the most efficient system possible.
Now, to be efficient you need to have a competitive advantage. A competitive advantage will come by doing something that most people are not doing. The activity I am speaking about is mass messaging from a traditional online dating site. For example, if you create a match account and start messaging men.
Most women either DO NOT message men or message a few a month. These metrics are way too low. In order to have a competitive advantage, you need to message at least 50 men in a week.
You are probably thinking, "Mike, how is this efficient? I am going to find 50 guys I am interested by spending a ton of time and then I am going to have think of a great message to send to them. This is crazy time consuming."
You would be 100% right if you did it that way. My suggestion is to copy and paste a message to the first 50 guys that look decent.
Then, when the guys reply to your message research their profiles, photos, messages, and determine which guys makes sense for you.
Why does this work?
What I have found is that when you send 50 messages, on average 12 men will be interested in you. From that 12, I want you to select 1 to go on a date with that week.
Now imagine, if you had 12 guys that wanted to date you every single week and your job was to simply pick 1. Don't you think that 1 date each week would be pretty good?
Oh baby, yes, it will be a great date! Using this system my clients only need to meet 6-8 guys to find someone they like.
Pretty awesome right?
We call that 50-12-1. In my opinion it is the only way to do online dating. It gives you more options and allows you to pick out quality men quickly.
Now, sometimes 50 doesn't produce 12. In that case send 100, 150, or even 200. If you can't get 12 from 200 then either your pictures, profile, or location you live is really hurting you. You may want to look into fixing one or all of those.
Alright, let's move on. Online dating is not for everyone.
So Category 2 folks that want to meet men in person, let's have some fun and get you out there.
How fun is this going to be?
First, pick something you enjoy doing OR better yet picking some activity you want to learn and that you are not good at yet.
Now you are probably thinking, "why something I am not good at?"
Great question my friend! When you are doing the activity and struggling you can turn to the nice guy next to you and ask him for help. While he helps you, perhaps you start to build a connection, or at the very least you can give him appreciation for his help and make him feel needed by you. (Men gravitate towards women that make them feel needed)
Okay, nice work. So there you have it. You got 2 massive categories on how you can meet men. Feel free to pick the category you enjoy most or if you are a switch hitter, start meeting men in both categories.
Alright beautiful lady, you got all the tools to make it happen. Go out there and get it done!
- Crista Caruso
In the video above, Mike gets personal and shares a story that illustrates an example of a very common issue. Mike and his girlfriend were heading to his cousin's wedding when they decided to stop to get something to eat. His girlfriend suggested that they get some Greek food and they found an awesome sounding Greek restaurant online. Everything was going great until Mike got a little lost. He began feeling really overwhelmed when his girlfriend tried to help me figure out which way to go. Then, when she then tried to have a conversation about something else, Mike totally lost it! Stressed out, he raised my voice at her. He felt awful for losing his cool and hurting her feelings.
Many men have this limitation and prefer doing one thing at a time. This is difficult for women to understand because they have ten times more receptors between the left and right hemispheres of their brains. This makes them far superior in the multitasking department.
There are some things that women can do to help men with these limitations. You can do your best to understand and accept that he needs to do on one thing at a time. Allow him to focus on completing the task at hand. Step back and give him some time to get things done. Once he finishes whatever he is working on, you can move onto something else. This will help him to feel accepted and at ease, he won’t feel overwhelmed or frustrated, and he will feel great once he completes the task. Men love solving problems and getting things done. If he can devote all of his focus to one thing at a time, he can get a lot more done than if he tried to do a lot of things at once and became overwhelmed.
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- Crista Caruso
Has this ever happened to you? Your relationship seems to be going great and then BAM… your boyfriend disappears. You were probably left feeling hurt and confused and maybe even angry. You also might have blamed yourself. I am here to tell you that you are not to blame and you can and will get past these negative feelings.
This is the most important lesson that I can teach you: No one can make you feel anything. Yes, someone’s words or actions can bring on negative feelings but you have the power to turn it all around. Every day, you have to wake up and to decide how you feel. You have to tell yourself that yes, that person hurt you but if they are capable of doing that to you, you don’t want them in your life anyway. You have to move forward with positivity and invite positive people into your life.
I know all too well that this is easier said than done. The secret is that you have to fake it until you make it! How do you do that? When someone asks you how you’re doing, tell them that you are fantastic, amazing, or phenomenal! Even if I am feeling down or in a bad mood, if I use one of these happy adjectives and put on a happy face, I start feeling better. I bet you will, too! Give it a shot! It’s amazing what a positive outlook can do!
For the record, there are tons of reasons why a man might disappear and most of these reasons have nothing to do with their partner. Maybe he is not ready for a commitment… Maybe things just don’t feel right… Maybe he is panicking and can’t handle confrontation… Maybe he doesn’t think he’s good enough for you…Whatever his reasoning might be, if he chooses to vanish without coming to you and telling you what’s going on, he is not the one for you. He did not end the relationship in the right way but that relationship was meant to come to an end so you can find someone who would never disappear on you.
Keep in mind that there is a big difference between a man needing space and a man completely up and vanishing. Space is actually really healthy and helpful for men. When they are under stress, they need that time to decompress and clear their mind. If you see your man seeking out time alone, be supportive and let him know that you are there for him if he wants some company later.
When something brings you down, you can lift yourself up, even if you’re just pretending to be ok at first. Remember that there is always a reason why people do the things that they do. If he disappeared, that’s on him. Now, you are free to find someone who will stay by your side no matter what. Do your best to stay positive and it will get easier and easier.
The fake it until you make it method doesn’t work for everyone all the time. If you are feeling depressed, please know that you are not alone. I encourage you to reach out to loved ones and seek help from a professional.
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