- Crista Caruso
- Jul 17, 2018
- 3 min read
Are you in a relationship but you just aren't sure if he feels the same way about you that you feel about him? Here are 4 signs that he is falling in love with you:
1) He makes future plans with you
This is huge! If he is booking trips or planning to go to events with you, he's expecting that you guys are still going to be together months from now. One of the biggest ways to tell that you are in love with someone is to think about the future. If you can't picture it without that person, that is a pretty good sign that you are in love! By making future plans with you he is showing you that when he looks to his future, you are in it.
2) He introduces you to his friends and family
Many men don't tell their friends and family about a girl unless they are serious about her. If he introduces you to his friends and family, especially if he introduces you to his parents, that is a big sign that he is falling in love with you. It shows that you are important to him and he wants to bring you into his inner circle. It is also a big step if he wants to meet your friends and family. He is looking to get to know you better and he wants to bond with the people that you are close to.
3) He will do things with/for you that he doesn't want to do
This is part of the transition from being single to being in a relationship. When you are single, you only have to report to yourself. When you are in a relationship, you now have to report to 2 people; yourself and your significant other. You don't just worry about yourself and your needs, you have to worry about your partner and their needs. If you see him doing things that he might not necessarily want to do, that's a sign that he loves you. He is putting what you want to do above what he wants to do. He might skip watching a football game to go run errands with you or maybe he'll go see a movie that he isn't interested in because he knows you've been wanting to see. He loves you and he wants to make you happy. You are important and your happiness is a priority for him.
4) He keeps dating you even after you refuse to sleep with him
This is important early on in the relationship. If you can get a guy to make it to date 5 or 6 without having sex with him, that shows you that he really likes you and he wants to get to know you. Making him wait will show you that he is not just looking to have sex. He is really interested in having a relationship with you.
There's no need to guess whether he loves you or he loves you not! His actions will show you how he feels about you.
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- Crista Caruso
- Jul 13, 2018
- 3 min read
When something upsets you, it is perfectly normal for you to feel angry about it. There is a way, however, for you to resolve the conflict without you or your partner flying off the handle. In this video, John Gray, the author of "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus", shares tips to help you move past the issue in a calm and healthy way.
One technique that men can use to help extinguish a heated situation with their partner is to let the woman talk through the issue and listen closely to what she says. Let her tell you how she feels and ask questions to help you understand those feelings. Let her know that you hear her and agree to end the conversation there.
Women feel better when they talk things out but the same usually can't be said for men. Because women find relief in talking about the issue, they think that men will feel better once they talk, too. It is important that women don't push their men to talk about his feelings. When you agree to end the conversation, give each other space and move forward with positivity.
Another mistake that many women make is submitting to the man and placing all of the blame on themselves. When a woman does this, she is giving up her authentic self in order to nourish the man. This attempt at calming him down only hurts him in the long run because it doesn't help him manage his anger. It only destroys the equality of the relationship.
Biologically, when a man is angry, his testosterone turns into estrogen, filling his brain with emotion and making it difficult to think clearly. Next, the blood goes to the limbic system or "the monkey brain". This middle part of the brain is full of mirror cells. These mirror cells will cause him to reflect whatever he sees. This results in a ping pong game with his partner. If she has 5 complaints about him, then he has 5 complaints about her. It goes back and forth, making everything worse.
So what can men do to combat this issue? He can listen to his partner and make her feel safe to tell him how she feels. Next, he can do something to increase his testosterone. He can do pushups, meditate, watch a football game... anything to distract his attention away from whatever is upsetting him. Once he is feeling better, he can go back to his partner with love and understanding. After a fight, she might be worried that he doesn't love her anymore. He should show her affection and kindness and they can move forward with the knowledge that they overcame a conflict together. Their conflict resolution skills will get better and better, strengthening the relationship.
When a conflict arises...try to stay cool and listen to each other. Agree to take a step back and not let things blow up. Understand that you probably have different methods for dealing with your emotions. Men must understand that women need to talk about their feelings and women must understand that men might not want to talk about theirs. You can resolve the conflict together without letting anger get the best of you.
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- Crista Caruso
- Jul 11, 2018
- 3 min read
Everyone wants to find love and it is frustrating when you go on a bunch of dates but you can't seem to find someone that you truly connect with. You don't have to go to the bar every night, hoping that you'll find him. You don't have to go on awful dates with men who just are not what you're looking for. You can find a quality man who is right for you!
So, where do you find this quality man? The first step is not a matter of the right place or the right time. It is finding the clarity inside of yourself. You have to figure out what is important to you and not let any decisions be rushed and forced from a needy or desperate place. Don't look for a soul mate. Look for someone who you will have fun with. You want to create a series of positive dating experiences. This provides the nourishment that you need to help you be patient when finding the right guy.
Check out this video for more information on this topic from John Gray, the author of "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus":
Once you take the time to figure out what you need, you can figure out what qualities are important to you. This can be anything from financial stability to personality traits and interests. You want to have things in common but it is the differences that creates the magnetism. Similar interest are great because you can enjoy doing things together but having different interests is important, too. You can share these interests with each other, introducing new and interesting things to one another. You can also do these activities separately, giving each other a little healthy space. Plus you know what they say... Opposites attract!
The thing that initially draws a lot of women to their perspective partner is looks. Keep in mind that you don't have to be physically attracted to a man right away. The attraction can grow over time. In fact, welcoming the attention of someone that you aren't necessarily attracted to and letting him pursue you puts you in "The Safety Zone". He wants you more than you want him, he earns his way to your heart, and then you attach to him and you want him.
One of EZ Dating Coach, Mike's, clients came to him because she was sick of going on bad date after bad date. She was only dating men that she was physically attracted to and she was feeling like a failure when none of these relationships made it past the first or second date. All of her friends were getting married and she was feeling lonely and depressed. She told Mike that she could not take one more night of the bar scene. He helped her to take a step back and not put so much pressure on everything. He suggested that she put herself in new and interesting places and situations. She decided to join a running group. She met a man that seemed kind and compassionate and who enjoyed being in nature, 3 qualities that were really important to her. Men love to help and teach you things! New to running, my friend reached out to the man for advice and they really hit it off. They've been happily dating ever since and they just bought a house together!
The most important thing to remember is that you have to follow your heart and your intuition. Don't put pressure on yourself and don't try to change yourself to fit the mold of what you think they perfect guy is looking for. Be yourself. Be confident and brave. Try new things. Venture outside of your comfort zone. You will find a quality guy and he will be the perfect guy for you!
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