Meeting men during the different phases of your life can vary from being incredible easy to rather difficult. However, at most phases of your life, you are looking for quality over quantity which can certainly be a very daunting task.
But, let me show you how to do it for folks 21-75.
In my humble opinion I think the first step is defining what a QUALITY guy looks like for you. I would accomplish this by making a list of every possibly quality you want in a man. Next, I would shrink the list to your top 5 qualities. Now, moving forward you will only pursue men that have your top 5. After a first date, you will look at your list and if the guy has your 5, you will agree to a 2nd date, if he doesn't have your 5, then he won't' qualify for a 2nd date. Easy peezy right!?
Now that you have a quality man defined, it is time to figure out how you want to meet this guy. As far as I can tell there is almost an unlimited way to meet men. Some examples: Grocery shopping, ice skating, workout classes, online dating, through friends, religious organizations, meetup groups, Brazilian jui jitsui, running groups, travel groups, and the list goes on for some time. Which one of these methods excites you?
If the list is daunting and you don't know what to do, let me put you into 1 of 2 categories.
1 - Introverted or Just Prefer to Meet Men In the Comfort of Your Home
2 - Extroverted and Prefer to Meet Guys In Person
If you are category 1. I would highly suggest rocking online dating. If you are going to do online dating, I would suggest doing it my way. My was is the most efficient and successful strategy in the country. If this is interesting to you, buckle up, because I am going to rock your world with this.
If you don't want to do online dating, no big deal. Shoot down to my ideas for category 2 folks.
But, if you want to do online dating, HERE WE GO!
Okay, first off. If you are going to do anything, you should do it in the most efficient manner possible. Time is wildly valuable and if you are inefficient than you are wasting your valuable time. That is why I researched and eventually built the most efficient system possible.
Now, to be efficient you need to have a competitive advantage. A competitive advantage will come by doing something that most people are not doing. The activity I am speaking about is mass messaging from a traditional online dating site. For example, if you create a match account and start messaging men.
Most women either DO NOT message men or message a few a month. These metrics are way too low. In order to have a competitive advantage, you need to message at least 50 men in a week.
You are probably thinking, "Mike, how is this efficient? I am going to find 50 guys I am interested by spending a ton of time and then I am going to have think of a great message to send to them. This is crazy time consuming."
You would be 100% right if you did it that way. My suggestion is to copy and paste a message to the first 50 guys that look decent.
Then, when the guys reply to your message research their profiles, photos, messages, and determine which guys makes sense for you.
Why does this work?
What I have found is that when you send 50 messages, on average 12 men will be interested in you. From that 12, I want you to select 1 to go on a date with that week.
Now imagine, if you had 12 guys that wanted to date you every single week and your job was to simply pick 1. Don't you think that 1 date each week would be pretty good?
Oh baby, yes, it will be a great date! Using this system my clients only need to meet 6-8 guys to find someone they like.
Pretty awesome right?
We call that 50-12-1. In my opinion it is the only way to do online dating. It gives you more options and allows you to pick out quality men quickly.
Now, sometimes 50 doesn't produce 12. In that case send 100, 150, or even 200. If you can't get 12 from 200 then either your pictures, profile, or location you live is really hurting you. You may want to look into fixing one or all of those.
Alright, let's move on. Online dating is not for everyone.
So Category 2 folks that want to meet men in person, let's have some fun and get you out there.
How fun is this going to be?
First, pick something you enjoy doing OR better yet picking some activity you want to learn and that you are not good at yet.
Now you are probably thinking, "why something I am not good at?"
Great question my friend! When you are doing the activity and struggling you can turn to the nice guy next to you and ask him for help. While he helps you, perhaps you start to build a connection, or at the very least you can give him appreciation for his help and make him feel needed by you. (Men gravitate towards women that make them feel needed)
Okay, nice work. So there you have it. You got 2 massive categories on how you can meet men. Feel free to pick the category you enjoy most or if you are a switch hitter, start meeting men in both categories.
Alright beautiful lady, you got all the tools to make it happen. Go out there and get it done!
Relocating for a career opportunity is fairly common, but what about moving to increase your odds of finding a soulmate? Zillow recently revealed the best metros to find love. The rankings are based on the population of single residents and the number of single newcomers. Other factors in the mix include the number of date spots, like restaurants and bars, and the median income of residents 18 and older.
Boston secured the top spot with 66 percent of its population consisting of singles and a staggering 159 romantic meeting places per 10,000 people. Despite the steep cost of apartments, Boston singles, with a median income of $25,000, have a little more dough to spend on their dates.
New Orleans may have a party reputation, but it also ranks as the second-best place in the U.S. to find a match. Fifty-nine percent of NOLA residents are single, and there are 51 date spots per 10,000 residents.
As Zillow’s research indicates, finding a partner may also help offset the high costs of housing. Although married couples represent 60 percent of home buyers, the number of unmarried couples transitioning to home ownership is climbing. In 2015, unmarried couples represented 15 percent of all home buyers compared to 11 percent a decade ago. Meanwhile, the percentage of single home buyers dropped from 31 percent to 25 percent between 2010 and 2015. With two incomes, setting aside money for a down payment is significantly easier given the current trend of rising home prices nationwide.
Check out the full breakdown of metros where love, and perhaps homeownership, is on the horizon.