If you have been cheated on, you have two options, leave the person or stay with them. This decision is a massive one and is extremely difficult to make. In order to help you, I am going to place cheaters into 2 distinct buckets and explain the pros and cons of each so you can make a better decision for your relationship.
Let's talk about why men cheat.
1. Cheating Purely For Physical Pleasure - All cheating is horrible, but if your man cheated simply to get laid, that is better than if he spent time to build an emotional attachment and found another person he cared about.
Men are capable of using sex simply as a release or act of pleasure, no attachment is necessary. If there is zero attachment and he cheated just for physical stimulation, he did something stupid but there may be nothing wrong with your relationship and his emotional needs are being met within the relationship.
But, what about the man who cheats for a different reason?
2. Cheating to Fill an Emotional Need Not Satisfied in Current Relationship - This cheating is the worst. This man is not getting all his emotional needs met within his relationship and decided to look outside the relationship to meet his needs. This means something is missing within the relationship. If you and your guy want to continue both of you need to be abundantly clear what is missing and figure out a game plan to ensure the need is fixed.
Okay, we have deciphered between two types of cheaters.
Should you stay or should you go?
No one can make that decision for you. But some questions to help you figure it out are
Will you be able to trust him again? Is he willing to work to re-gain your trust? Is he never going to do this again?
Are you willing to work on the relationship? Is he willing to work on the relationship?
In the future if emotional or physical needs are not being met, when and how will this be discussed? Once discussed, how will it be solved? Is couples therapy an option?
If you can build a plan to move forward, perhaps forgiveness can eventually be offered. However, if you can't build a plan, perhaps separating is best for both parties.
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Imagine yourself newly dating a really great guy--the type of guy who makes your heart skip a beat! The guy who meets all the criteria on your checklist and more.
The guy who has been taking you out to fabulous dinners, texting you daily, and sending flowers to your office. You can't wait to bring him home to mom and dad--until you realize you are going to have to wait! Because after stalking his Facebook page, you see the writing on the wall: He is dating other people! Horrified, you consider blocking him for good but instead send him a screenshot of the "evidence". (Caption. "WTF?? *Sigh* *Sad Face*)
You are hoping for some kind of explanation. Is this a joke? Did someone hack his account? Nope! When you ask him to spill it, he apologizes and accuses you of being "crazy". Mostly, you get the response from a man who thinks he did no wrong. "It's not like we are exclusive", he says. He's right. Sadly, he can date whoever he wants-whenever he wants-because the two or you never became an official couple. Sorry, girlfriend, you have broken the cardinal rule of dating: You can not assume you are exclusive unless a guy tells you they he wants to be exclusive with you.
Note: Unless he clearly states that he wants to be in a committed, monogamous relationship with you, assume that there's a good chance he's still seeing other women--as in talking to, dating, and sleeping with. One thing is for sure: If a man really wants to be in a serious relationship with you , he wants to lock it down. He wants to know that he's investing his time, energy, and money into a woman who is investing her own in him and him only. He doesn't want to compete for your affection anymore. He wants you to be his girlfriend. He wants to shout it from the rooftops or, umm, at least on social media. Ideally, you wouldn't have to ask him if he wants to be exclusive. Ideally, he'd leave no doubt in your mine. But even some good relationship-oriented guys are imperfect, afraid of rejection, and could use a little nudge. If this sounds like the guy you are dating and you want to take things to the next level, tell him.
Let him know your feelings but don't assume that you are exclusive just because you told him you want to be. The only thing you have to go by is his word. The moment he tells you he wants to be exclusive is the moment you know you're exclusive. And then you can start looking at his actions. Because they really do speak louder than words!
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