4 Signs He Actually Likes You and Won't Disappear

When you live with a partner, you see them every day. You can choose to communicate with each other at almost any time. If you are unsure of something, or something is bothering you, you simply ask your partner and talk it through.

However, if you are in the single world then none of this is quite possible just yet. When you are dating someone new you may see that person once per week or even less. Also, you are probably not talking every day. Because of the amount of communication in new relationships and the fact that you don't know each other well yet there can be lots of confusion in regards to intentions, life goals, and overall compatibility.

So since we can't bundle 2-3 years of dating/communicating with each other into some magic potion I did build a system that is quite accurate at telling you if your guy is serious about you.

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Here Are The 4 Signs He Actually Likes you and Won't Disappear

1. He Makes Future Plans With You - Imagine if it is January and together you book a vacation to Costa Rica in June. He wouldn't book this vacation, put his money at risk unless he was sure that he wanted to still be dating you by June.

2. He Introduces you to Friends and Family - If he is bringing you home to meet mom and dad. He is serious about you. If his mom is anything like mine, even a small whiff of a girl in my life means at least 45 minutes of questions. Thus, I never bring up a woman unless I am serious about that woman. I bet your guy practicing the same principle, unless he is a momma's boy, which is a whole other story.

Now, imagine if he is taking you home to meet family? You are in! High five.

3. He Does things with or for you that he doesn't want to do - If on Saturday, instead of relaxing he is going with you to Macy's to shop, which is most likely not his favorite activity then he is doing this because he wants to make you happy. If he sacrifices his own happiness for yours, you better believe he is doing this because he sees a future with you. Of course, he needs to decide to do these things, on his own, if you force him, he is going to disappear. It might not happen this week, or month, but I promise eventually he is going to be gone.

In order to cover all my bases. How do you invite him to activities? Say this:

"You would make me the happiest woman in the world if you would come to Macy's with me on Saturday." Now you allow him to respond. If he says, "yes." You say, "thank you so much, you are best!"

Finally, on Saturday make sure to thank him and maybe even tell him, "wow, you are such an amazing guy. I can't believe how sweet you are to come shopping with me on your Saturday. Thank you so much."

Side note: If you give me the praise stated above, I might go to Macy's with you ever Saturday. Men LOVE when their woman is happy. The Happy wife, Happy Life mantra is alive and well.

Finally, make sure to ask for what you want. Men are not mindreaders but actually LOVE when you give them a roadmap to your happiness. (We hate guessing what you want to do.)

4. He Takes You On 5 Plus Dates Without Get The Cookie - Let's over generalize but assume men are looking for sex and find love, while women are looking for love and find sex. In this case, the guy is looking for sex, doesn't receive it on date 1, 2, 3, and so on. Why does he keep asking you out? Well, around date 5 plus, most likely he found something special about you. He thinks there may be a future.

I put the number of dates at 5 because men may be willing to wait four dates to get laid. But, if a man is purely looking for sex, he most likely will give up before 5 dates. Reason being, there is most likely another woman out there who is willing to have sex with less effort. However, if he makes it to date 5 plus with you, he is intrigued and wants to keep exploring with you.

You now know the signs of a man that likes you. If your guy are doing these four things he is in it with you. Now just have a blast with him, get to know him, and figure out if he is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.

How Men Fall In Love

I am going to simplify and generalize so we can understand a point that holds true for "most" men and women. Please understand, of course there are outliers. Men are looking for sex and find love. Women are looking for love and find sex. Somewhere in the middle of these two paradigms men and women join forces to have sex and be in love. In the following video I am going to walk you through How Men Fall In Love and unmask how two red flags may not be red flags.

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Here are the Two Red Flags:

1. Men Wanting Sex Is NOT A Red Flag - No, No, No! It isn't. Men wanting to have sex with you is a good thing. It is simply telling you that he has some level of attraction to you. It is not saying he wants to get married or even wants a relationship. It is simply telling you that he finds you pretty.

Now, how will you use this to your advantage?

If he is trying to have sex with you, tell him, "I am so flattered! However, I don't jump into bed until 1. I get to know you better and 2. we are in an exclusive relationship. Are you okay with that?" If he says yes, ask him a question about something you are interested in. Assuming he is able to get back to getting to know each other and continues to ask you on future dates you may be in good shape with this guy.

Bottom line, if a guy asks you out for 5 plus dates, over 97.5% of time he is interested in more than just sex. Men that are just looking for sex, WILL NOT SPEND THE TIME AND MONEY TO TAKE YOU OUT 6 TIMES. The guy who wants sex will find someone that takes less work.

If I told you that you could make 1 million dollars per year working one hour per week or working 40 hours per week, which would you do? Of course you would work one hour per week. Well, this analogy is no different. The guy wants less than 5 dates for sex as opposed to 6 dates or more for sex. However, if he realizes you are fantastic and worth getting to know better, well 6+ dates is worth the effort.

2. Men Asking You To Be Monogamous on Date 2 is NOT a Red Flag - As a dating coach, nothing drives me crazier when I hear a client complaining that a guy asked to be exclusive too early with her. My response is typically, "Are you nuts? I am so sorry that a man likes you so much that he wants to date you and nobody else. That sounds so terrible for you!"

Yes, I will validate that asking a woman to be exclusive on date 2 is way too early. Both parties barely know each other. However, if you boil it down, the man is saying, "Hey, I really like you and want to focus on just you. I want to get to know you better and don't need other women around to distract me." This is a huge compliment and should be taken as such.

However, since you barely know each other I would suggest being honest with him. Honestly tell him, "You are so sweet! I like you too. However, I don't feel like we truly know each other yet. How about we got on some more dates, continue to get to know each other and if you still feel the same way down the road we can re-visit this issue?"

Boom! How simple was that? Now, you can keep dating him and other men if you so choose. If both of you truly like each other after 5+ dates then both of you can revisit the exclusivity issue.

So I just re-read this and I am not entirely sure I answered the question at hand. How Do Men Fall In Love?

So let's fix that immediately. Each man is looking for 5 qualities that he finds important. Each man has different qualities he is interested in. On date one or two ask, "What qualities are you looking for in your next relationship?"

If he explicitly says he needs someone who loves to workout and you are huge cross fit person than that is a good sign. However, if he wants something you don't have, perhaps this question may save both of you the same time. On the flip side, hopefully you get to share with him what you want. I find this question does a few things. 1. It allows you to get past surface level questions and truly get to know each other and 2. It allows you to save time and figure out if the person is right for you. Most importantly sharing your top 5 and using this system allows you to evaluate potential partners on compatibility instead of muddying the water by using chemistry to pick your partner.

Chemistry is a wonderful thing, but it can also be the cause of keeping very incompatible people together. Fortunately, you are smart and know to find a man based on your perfect man list instead of chemistry.

Wondering how to build your perfect man list? GO HERE to learn. Spoiler alert. It is only two steps and takes under 15 minutes to create. Even though it is so easy to make, you will literally use this list all the time. After every single first date you will review your list to determine if the guy makes the cut for a 2nd date. What are you still reading for? Go Build your list with the directions from HERE.

4 Step Process To Get Men To Open Up

It is no secret that getting men to open up, show emotion, or talk about their feelings is basically the equivalent of getting the Red Sea to part. It is no easy task. For whatever reason, on average men use about 7,000 words per day while women use about 20,000. So based on this data point, it is clear on average men are less expressive than women. However, there is a way to get men to talk about their feelings. I wanted to outline that process for you today because nothing is sexier than a man who confidently expresses himself and is able to open up.

First,

1. Make A Safe Place For Him To Be Himself

No men is ever going to tell you what he is feeling until he knows you 1. are not going to judge him and 2. are going to accept him for whatever he says. You do this by telling him you are okay with all the things other women were not huge fans of.

For example, if he plays video games once a week, or watches some strange program on television the best thing you can do is encourage him to do these things. After he finishes he will remember how awesome you are, and how different you are from every other woman and hopefully reward you with date nights or at least step up and attempt to make you equally happy.

Step 2. When Both Parties are Upset/Sad - Ask him to share why he is feeling a certain way?

Men hate conflict. Men want women happy all the time. However, that is impossible. Everyone has a down day. But, when you are mad, he wants you to be happy. Tell him, "If you can explain what you are feeling/thinking that will make me feel better." You are challenging him to open up but are giving him a reward at the end of the tunnel. All he needs to do is explain his inner workings and you will start to feel better. Now, once he explains himself do number three.

Step 3. Tell Him, "I feel so much better now and feel great understanding you better"

He is thinking, wow that was easy. I talked for a little bit and all of a sudden we are not arguing. My girlfriend/wife is happy again. That was simple (Men love solving problems). Which leads us to:

Step 4. Appreciate him for being so open, vulnerable and tell him:

"You made me so happy that you are comfortable enough to share your feelings." -

Once again, keep re-enforcing his good behavior. It is vital that he fully understands that in the future if he share his emotions he will 1. be accepted for them, 2. be able to alleviate fights, and 3. be appreciated for his amazing communication skills.

There you have it ladies. You are never going to turn your husband into the communicator your best girlfriend is but with the 4 step process outlined above you can certainly positively reinforce your man into expressing his feelings in a far superior manner than what he may currently be doing.