Mike Goldstein
I feel like every few months there is a new hot dating site. It is almost impossible to keep up. But today I am going to create a list of some of the major sites and apps. I am also going to tell you what each dating site is "known" for in as little words as possible. (This is mostly opinion, I do NOT have hard data on many of these dating sites so feel free to try all of them out and make your own judgments)
Tinder - hook up app
OkCupid - The Best Site When Pursuing People Based on Match%
Plenty of Fish - User are mostly of mid tier affluence
Coffee Meets Bagel - WASPY
Hinge - Introduced to 3rd connection friends on Facebook
Bumble - Girl must send 1st Message
Zoosk - Users are mostly of mid tier affluence
Happn - A lot of time spent, minimal actually dating
Pro Tip: eHarmony is meant for finding love. eHarmony is over populated by females. If you are a guy looking for love, you may want to check out eharmony because you will have less competition.
Which dating site is the best for finding love? (Using Data For This Answer)
Okcupid is the best. If you go on a date with someone with 90% or higher match percentage, 85% of the time you will have a good conversation with that person. You may not fall in love or have chemistry but you will have a good amount of similarities that lead to a good conversation. If you consistently go on dates where the conversation is good, you vastly increase your chances of finding love quickly. I have found that many of my clients only need to meet 6-8 people in order to find someone to be exclusive with.
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Mike Goldstein
In this life we know two things for sure. Your time on earth is limited and you will pay taxes. In today's article we are going to focus on time, more specifically how you can optimize your time so if you want to get married you are not wasting energy on men who are NOT right for you.
So how are you going to do this?
Let's discuss your first date strategy. Some women are going on first dates, keeping conversation PC, and hoping to get out of there with a guy that is intrigued, but not really getting or giving much information. Well, if you are serious about optimizing your love life this is not going to cut it.
A great first date should be light and fun but at the same time start answering many if not most of your questions on whether your date could potentially be a life partner.
Now, I am sure most of you are reading this and thinking I am crazy, and quite frankly you may be right. But, the reason I am coming off crazy is because most people don't realize they can get the information they need from their 1st date in a light and still fun first date way.
Let me show you:
My 5 Needs
1. Takes bad situations in stride - Positive attitude
2. Healthy Lifestyle
3. Can handle social situations / Not need me by her side the whole time
4. Challenges me/Supports me - Be able to learn from each other
5. Independent
So how do I figure out if my date has these qualities: (Numbers Correspond to the Numbers Above)
1. Ask person about their job? Are they excited or say something positive about their work? It is okay to not like your job but it is nice to hear some redeeming qualities about an activity that takes up so much time in a person's life.
2. What are your favorite foods? If answer is something unhealthy, ask, is that a cheat meal or is that your go to daily? Also, say, "you have a great body, what do you do to stay in shape?"
3. This may come in date 5, date 8, or maybe even later. But eventually you will want to bring someone to an event or to meet friends/family. Does your date need to cling onto you or can he mingle on his own?
4. Talk about what you do for work. Are they excited to ask you questions and learn more about what you do?
5. Ask, "What do you do for fun? What do you and your friends do together?" If your date has a big social life, doing a lot of activities he will probably want to maintain them even after you combine lives.
So many experts are clamoring about whether to make yourself busy or be available. Each one gives opposing advice which practically makes it impossible to definitively know which approach is best. Thus, I am going to attempt to lay out the answer in the most clear, precise, and actionable way possible.
First, whether you are in a relationship or single, build the best possible life for yourself. What does that mean?
Have balance between the 6 pillars of Happiness.
Most importantly, realize that one person is not going to be able to provide you with everything you need.
So back to the question at hand, should you be busy or available?
The answer is you need to build a lifestyle that is attractive. If you have your health, family/friends, are smart, have your job and finances in order, all while maintaining an active social life you will be extremely attractive to suitors.
Now, once you have the infrastructure in place, if a guy asks you out and you are free, go on the date. If you are not free, but are interested, say, "Thank you so much for asking me out. I would absolutely love to go. Unfortunately, I have plans. But, I am free next Tuesday or Thursday at 8PM if either of those work for you?"
Key Points: If you reject a man's initial date, you must offer SPECIFIC times to make the date happen. Men are not mind readers and if you reject the first date they may think you are not interested. If you are not interested, they move to a girl that is.
In order to drive home the point, dating shouldn't be about games (pretending to busy). It is about building a great life for yourself, attempting to find someone worthy to share it with, and finally effectively communicating with suitors so they constantly and consistently know where they stand.