How To Give A Guy Space So He Misses You and Comes Back

How To Give A Guy Space So He Misses You and Comes Back 😍

In this video I am going to show you how to give a guy space so he misses you and comes back making your relationship stronger than ever. So here’s the deal, you are dating a guy and everything is going fine. But out of nowhere he starts texting you less, calling you less, and even when you are together he just seems distant and not his normal loving self.

He just seems not as excited about you, and you feel this wall between you. This may cause you to want to chase him, which leads him to want to pull away, causing you to panic even more.

Basically, you are afraid of losing him. But, your fear may unintentionally push him away instead of bringing him closer. That is what happens when you don’t know how to give him space in the right way.

But don’t worry, I got your back and will teach you how your man works and how to accept him as he is.

First, let’s talk about why men sometimes need space in a relationship. The biggest reason is stress. It could be something from the relationship or it could have nothing to do with the relationship.

But, either way, you will feel him pull away just the same. Men, when they are feeling stress or in need of solving a problem want to deal with it alone. They have been conditioned “to be the big strong men” and not be vulnerable, ask for help, or show emotions which they perceive as weakness.

Thus, your big strong man will appear to be distant,, but really what he is doing is entering his man cave to solve or distract his brain from the problem and will return when he feels strong again or has solved the problem.

When he pulls away, you may think the problem has to do with you. You may then see your man watching tv, playing video games, going to the gym, or hanging with friends and wonder why these activities are getting his attention but he won’t give you that same attention.

The male brain works differently than yours. He has this magical power to turn off the side of his brain that is feeling stress which is unlike your brain which has 10 times more receptors between the right and left hemisphere which causes you to feel like your brain is always flipped on and never turns off.

So, when he is watching tv or hanging with his buds, he turns off the stress, enjoys his time and at some point when he revisits the stressful task he feels magically less stressed and clear minded to solve the problem or at least move past it.

His stress is relieved this way and not by receiving support or by talking it out which may be helpful for you. If you make him discuss his stress, he will become more stressed, start producing estrogen, and will actually become irritable.

Now, he also could be pulling away because he is losing interest in you, possibly because you got in a nasty fight, or maybe you have been acting a bit needy or clingy.

Both of these reason for your guy taking space will be handled in identical fashion. Let me explain.

But, first let me tell you what not to do.

1 -Do not go running after him. Your natural instinct when your gf is upset with you or stressed is to be by her side, make her feel heard and listened to. Your man is NOT one of your gfs.

Imagine the last time you felt fully stressed and a desperate need to be by yourself. Perhaps someone chased after you, and all you felt was, do not touch me, don’t talk to me, Please, I need some time to myself.

Whenever a man’s emotions are running high, this is exactly how he is feeling. So treat him the way you wanted to be treated when you needed space.

Now, you may be thinking let me cheer him up. You may send him inspiration texts, romantic gestures, or even try seducing him. All these things normally would be received extremely well. However, in his current state it will just feel like an additional burden and add to his stress. This will cause him to pull even further away.

Next, do NOT overthink why he has pulled away. Your thinking will quickly turn into problem solving mode which is a hugle masculine energy task. When you are in your masculine, you are not in a relaxed and calm state.

This type of energy may lead you down a rabbit hole replaying all your interactions over the last few days/ weeks and trying to uncover what you did wrong. When in reality him needing space may have absolutely nothing to do with you.

This obsessing leads you down a dark path of knit picking your insecurities which is not necessary and frankly you are fabulous and probably did nothing wrong.

Now let's shift gears to what you should do when he needs space.

1 - Get Your Fear Under Control - Perhaps you attached your self-worth to how well your relationship is doing. Your guy pulling away is making you immediately jump to the worst case scenarios that you are going to be single in a week and thus as a single person you are less valuable. (Of course this is not true, but sometimes our brain/emotions play tricks on us).

However, here is the deal. You control how you feel. Decide that you are not afraid. Decide that you are amazing. Decide that your emotional state has nothing to do with his state.

You are happy, you are there for him if he needs you, but you are in control of how you decide to feel.

Next,

2 - Give Him Space - This is your time to shine! Are you ready to be the sexiest, most amazing woman on the planet? All the women before you didn’t see this video, didn’t know this information. But, you are watching this, you have the insider information on how men work, so let’s show him how incredible you are.

You are not going to force him to talk. Instead, you are going to give him all the time he needs, You are not going to text him or call him. Instead, you are going to tell him he is an amazing man and if/when he wants to chat, you’ve got his back but otherwise go handle your business, you stud.

Step 3. - Enjoy Yourself - Practice Self Care - Close your eyes, breathe. How does your body feel? What does your body need? What does your brain need? Go do whatever you need.

You deserve this, Enjoy it!

Final reminder, a man taking space, most of the time is not about you. But, if you make it about the relationship, he will pull away longer and then he may start wondering if you are the type of woman that truly understands/accepts him.

Instead, be the sexy, intelligent man whisperer that understands him sometimes better than he understands himself. You got this!

You Need To Know These Dirty Little Secret BEFORE You Sleep With Him

You Need To Know These Dirty Little Secrets BEFORE You Sleep With Him

Have you ever slept with a guy, and ended up regretting it? Maybe, he was not looking for a relationship. Maybe you weren’t ready to be sexual yet. Maybe, you wanted sex to be with someone special and it ended up just being another guy. Or maybe you really liked him, weren’t ready to have sex, but didn’t know how to say no.

Regardless of why you regretted it, I don’t want you to EVER feel that way again.

So I compiled the ultimate checklist for us to run through so we only sleep with men who are legitimate contenders for a serious committed relationship and is an activity to enhance the intimacy, NOT be the perfect bandaid for what LONG TERM will be an unfulfilling relationship.

We are getting started right now on the 5 things you need to know before you sleep with him. Make sure you stick around for the 5th one because that one may be the most important.

1. What Does He Want?

If you want to drive to Saks 5th Avenue, (not know how to get there), you don’t just get in your car and head north. You go to google maps, find it, and then hit start directions.

Dating shouldn’t be different than getting directions from google. You don’t just randomly date any man and just assume he wants the same things as you.

Instead you should be proactive. If you are still chatting with a man on the dating app, on date 1, date 2, or whenever you want, ask him “What are you looking for?”

“If he says, a relationship. Say Great.

If you are debating sleeping with him, make sure he says, “that he wants a relationship with you.”

If he says a relationship in general, that may be his loop hole to get laid by saying what you want to hear but still technically being honest. So please make sure you get clarification. (Sadly, I see men do this quite often and I don’t want to see this happen to you).

2. He Makes You Feel Comfortable and Safe - Think about the rated R guy you have dated that maybe you feel excitement and thrill around, certainly crazy sexual attraction towards. Maybe part of the excitement is you don’t 100% know what is going to happen but he is crazy charming. This will not meet check list standards and could end up in regret.

Instead, perhaps the PG13 guy who is intellectually stimulating, great at conversation, willing to introduce you to friends and family, holds the door for you, helps you with your coat, and walks you to your car in the dark parking garage, among many other gestures and positive affirmations he sends your way. Perhaps he is a better fit long term for jumping into bed with.

3. Which leads me to number 3 - You Have the Same Values - Which also consists of choosing a man based on compatibility over chemistry.

Some examples of values to explore with a potential partner include

How they value money, do they believe in a clean house, are they minamalists or enjoy lots of things, what religion are they, what political party are they, what is there view on family, do they value work or free time, what are there top 3 priorities in life - do they align with yours. How do they argue, is yelling allowed? What level of sexual exploration are they into. Do they believe in one partner or multiple partners? Do they lean more towards nurturing or obedience when raising children. And so much more.

With my clients, I make them fill out 36 boundaries they may have in regards to values. Now it may be difficult to find out all these values from a partner by just chatting. I would suggest taking the necessary time getting to know someone and watching their actions over time to see what their values truly are.

4. He Understands and Wants to Deliver What You Want - For example: A lot of women assume after having sex that they are now exlclusive with this man. A lot of men, assume, wow that was fun, and then may have sex with another woman later that week and think he did nothing wrong.

Now, in my opinion, neither one of these people did anything wrong UNLESS you have discussed it. In this example, if you want sharing a bed with someone to be special, make sure you discuss your expectations after spending the evening together. If he is interested in you, he will have no problem agreeing that you are the only woman for him. Do you trust him when he says you will be the only one?

If you are not sure if you can trust him, maybe you should postpone the sleepover for when you are sure?

And now finally, the most important piece of the checklist.

Number 5. You Have the Same Purpose with Sex - Some of you are sleeping together for physical enjoyment, some are having sex to take the relationship to the next level, some are having sex to move to exclusivity, while others feel intimacy with their partner and want to take that to even higher forms of pleasure. Or maybe you are hoping to build an even more intense emotional and spiritual bond with your partner.

If you are both aligned in what you want to achieve and all the other points on the checklist have been checked then you can make better decisions on who you sleep with and when you sleep with them.

So, on your next courting experience I encourage to check off these 5 items and never again regret who you have sex with.

Happy hunting my friends, stay safe and have amazing sex with fabulous deserving men.

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