Story, State and Strategy. Tony Robbins speaks about these Three S's in his book Money: Master The Game and I realized the 3 S's are so relevant to finding love.
Let's get into it.
First, strategy. Let's say you are trying to lose weight. If you are eating ice cream, potato chips, and fried chicken all day it is never going to happen. However, if your friend has lost 80 lbs and has kept it off for years then she probably has a good strategy. All you need to do is emulate what she did.
But, that is probably easier said than done or 70% of Americans wouldn't be considered overweight right?
So, even if I give you the best strategy to meet and keep men, that is only part of the story.
Which leads me to the 2nd S, story. Are you giving yourself a limiting story? "College educated men are 3-1 in my city. All men are liars, just looking to have sex. All the good guys are taken, and so on."
With that story, you are putting yourself into a state that is setup for failure. The story is a self fulfilling prophecy.
However, what if you decided, right now, that you will no longer stand for being single. What if you declared with authority, that you are going to do whatever you need to do to meet the love of your life.
Do you think these statements may change your state? If you have this attitude, do you think it even matters that finding love is hard? No, it doesn't matter because you have committed to doing whatever it takes. You are going to do it!
Takeaway: If you are going to do anything that is difficult, make sure your strategy, state, and story are all aligned for success.