Mike Goldstein
Online dating, bars, friends, religious groups, the gym. These are all good ways to meet men. However, there must be a great alternative option that gives you an immediate leg up. There is!
My idea is very easy. Find a meetup group, sport, or any activity people meet at that you are not particularly good at and start attending regularly.
Why are you doing this?
Men crave to feel needed by women in a world women RARELY need men.
So how do you accomplish this phenomenon?
Simple, join that Jui Jitsui class. Attempt to learn and when you struggle ask the good looking single guy if he can help you. (Men LOVE giving advice and teaching)
Once he teaches you something, perhaps you catch his eye and then you can get to know each other. If not, you can always try it on the next guy.
Now this idea may seem like a lot of work. Well, it is. So I would suggest picking an activity you would like to learn. Also, manage your expectations. Even if you don't meet a guy, you got your butt out of the house and did something you may have never done. Not to mention, if you stick with this activity, eventually you are going to get good at it. Once you are good at another activity, you are a more well rounded and interesting person.
If a guy gets a date with you via online dating and you tell him you can do jui jitsua, the right guy might be very interested and intrigued.
So basically, you are either getting a date or becoming more attractive to potential suitors. Sounds like a win/win situation.
You are at a bar when all of a sudden a charming, well put together man approaches you and starts engaging in conversation. At first, you are skeptical but after 10 minutes you realize this guy is charming and seems to have good intentions. 10 minutes later you start to like the guy and are wondering if he feels the same way about you.
Which leads us to, what are some signs to know if he likes you instantly?
1. Is he finding reasons to drift closer to you?
When a man finds you enchanting, he will literally start gravitating towards you and slowly inch closer. He may not even realize he is doing it, but it is a good sign.
2. In conversation does he offer up information you didn't ask for?
He is telling you new information to either impress you, make you feel safe, or at least get you to like him/think he is a nice guy.
3. If conversation dies down, does he re-initiate?
He will leave if not interested
4. Touching
Is he looking for reasons to touch you, whether it be the smallest thing, on the arm, middle of the back, or maybe even grazing legs or touching hands. He wants to make physical contact because he is into you.
If these four signs are in place, he is definitely interested in you.
I have spent years studying online dating and perfecting the process of selecting photos and writing profiles that reflect exactly who you are so the right people send and respond to your messages. This aspect of my business has been wildly successful and makes up the majority of my client's relationships. However, it has always troubled me when single people/clients relied solely on online dating to find someone to date.
They are missing out on various other ways to meet people. Specifically, meeting people in person. Historically, women when they were interested in someone, would stare, maybe smile and hope the guy would come over and chat. To date, this is considered the best "mouse trap" for getting men.
However, based on my studies I have seen this work about 5 - 8% of the time. Thus 95 to 92% of the time the guy never approaches. I am sorry, but staring is NOT the best mouse trap if the best it can do is get an 8% success rate. Do you agree?
So a few years ago, I racked my brain for something simple that would warrant action from men. Boom! Here it is!
WAVE AT THE GUY!
Now before you think I am crazy, let me explain. If you wave, it forces him to do something. He can either cower in the corner, smile, or wave back. If you want, you can then wave for him to come over.
Why is this fantastic?
1. Shows you are confident (Confidence is rated the #1 Sexiest Characteristic of the Opposite Sex)
2. Men are afraid of rejection - This removes this fear and communicates you 100% would like to be approached
What are the results of the wave?
85% of wavers get a reaction. I am not saying 85% is favorable. But, 85% of the time the waver knew where she stood with the guy based on his reaction.
You can do this at a bar, at the grocery store, on public transit, literally everywhere. If you are shy and scared, try and get over it. This will work. Try New Things. I have tried this thousands of times, via myself, clients, and friends, it is leaps and bounds more successful than the stare.
Have some fun, wave at a stranger, be playful, and have a conversation and see if you have some similar interests. (At a minimum you at least know you are attracted to the person)
Okay, no more reading, Go Get'em Tiger!