There comes a time in many a woman's life where she no longer dates just to date. She knows what she wants and doesn't want to waste her makeup, give up her Saturday nights, or lose her beauty sleep until she finds it. She might date less in her search for happily-ever-after or she might date more in order to win at what she considers a numbers game. One thing is for sure: She doesn't want dating to be a boring process. She wants it to be fun! As a professional matchmaker who is spent countless hours getting date feedback from clients, I am certain that "fun" sometimes requires coming up with new date ideas.
Here are five worth considering................
The Breakfast/Brunch Date: Meet your date for breakfast or even better—brunch on a Sunday! I know some people think this is unromantic or something to do with your girlfriends, but for a first date, I think it is perfect. I mean, don’t get me wrong: I am totally game for getting all dressed up and going to a fancy restaurant for dinner. (And most women I know are too--for the right guy.) But there is also something very down to earth and refreshing about having eggs with someone, walking around a bit after, and getting on with your day! Of course, if you really hit it off and you live in a NYC or another city with an abundance of cool brunch parties-like those at Bagatelle or Zuma-you can stay and dance the day away.
The Improv Show: If you firmly believe in the adage that regards laughter as the best medicine, chances are you've had a date at a comedy club. While this old standby-with its two drink minimum-can be really fun, why not switch it up and try an improv show? Sometimes, when people aren't trying (as hard) to be funny, they are simply hysterical!
The Dinner Theater: Dinner and a movie just got an upgrade! After recently attending a dinner theater experience at Machiavelli's House in Tuscany-yes, the Machiavelli; yes, in Italy- I am convinced that dinner theater has the potential to be the best date ever! The food, the wine, the music, the scenery, and the audience participation make for a magical experience. Yes, it is hard to beat Tuscany, but you can try this in a city near you!
The Sporting Event: Sporting events are great for the early stages of dating, because guys feel comfortable in these venues. Whether you are out a baseball game, polo match, or the US Open, there is opportunity to have a lighthearted and fun time in a casual setting--complete with food, drinks, and excitement! Its never a bad idea to go somewhere where you can just let your hair down and enjoy getting to know each other.
The Class: The couple who learns together stays together! Whether you want to take a cooking class, trapeze lesson, or one of those pottery-making over wine classes that is springing up everywhere, you are sure to have a good time. Learning a new activity can be just the bonding experience you need to ignite a match or rekindle a flame. And, hey, even if it doesn't turn out to be a romantic connection, you just learned a new skill that made it worth your while.
Rachel Russo, MS, MFT is a Matchmaker, Dating & Relationship Coach, Author & Speaker. She has a master’s degree in Marriage & Family Therapy from Iona College, a BA in Psychology from Rutgers University, and a certification as an Intentional Relationship Coach. Rachel is the founder of Rachel Russo Relationships-a NYC-based dating and relationship consultancy-and has worked as a matchmaker for eleven years.
Rachel is the author of two books: A Fab Job Guide To Become A Matchmaker and How To Get Over Your Ex: A Step By Step Guide To Mend A Broken Heart Italian American Style. Rachel has pretty much earned her PhD in men—many thanks to a reality-date-a-thon in which she went on ninety-two dates in one year and blogged about them.