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Does Your Man Want Sex or Exclusivity?

A few months ago I was sitting on a girls bed, we just had a great day date, we walked around the upper west side. Then grabbed a drink at a trendy specialty cocktail bar. Next, we grabbed a quick dinner and then we retreated back to her apartment to relax and watch a movie.

All day I had been thinking about how I was crazy about the girl and quite simply I would be happy to stop dating other women and just focus on her. However, in the past I was always the quintessential Mr. Indecisive and sometimes could take 3-6 months of casual dating until I asked a girl to be exclusive.

Anyway, on her bed, on that evening, I was jumping out of the plane with no chute and was going for it. I asked her if she would like to be exclusive.

Her response, "I am flattered, but are you asking me just so I will have sex with you?"

This made me realize we have 2 Major Problems in the Dating World:

1. Women sometimes perceive men as willing to do anything to get laid


I am going to focus on #2 first because that drives me crazy for 2 Reasons:

1. You get what you ask for

2. If you are honest you get laid more often!!!!!!!!!