Most people work some iteration of a 9-5 job. During the work week it is imperative that we are not perceived as socially awkward, weird, or worse yet Creepy!
One of the ways we avoid these adjectives is through not holding sustained eye contact with anyone for too long. Reason being, if the Director of Finance caught us starring at him for 5 seconds straight, he is most likely going to feel extremely uncomfortable and if this happens multiple times, he will probably report us to HR. Needles to say the meeting with HR will not be fun.
So, basically, we spend most of our waking hours at work, purposely NOT holding eye contact with co-workers so we are viewed as "normal" and not socially akward.
However, Thursday Night rolls around and I have a hot date with a beautiful girl. Once again, I have been training 9-5 to not be creepy with sustained eye contact. (I don't work in a big corporate office anymore, but let's pretend to make my story better, THANKS!)
Every time this pretty girl looks at me, I look down and away. I do this as to not come off creepy. However, instead I am perceived as nervous and not confident. Yes, I have done this before. I blame the girl, she was too darn hott! :) But in all seriousness, I was being a wuss, didn't get a 2nd date, and will never, ever, do that again! (Just to be clear, it is 100% my fault, not hers for being hot)
What Should I Do? (This is advicve for both sexes)
Sustained Eye Contact will show confidence and build sexual tension
Speak Slowly and Confidently
Allow conversations to have pauses. If you have nothing to say, spend a few seconds looking at the TV while you come up with your next question (Much better than fluff conversation)
If you are ready to kiss, start slowing down the conversation, adding pauses and looking down at the person's lips (Maybe even start moving in and out of the person's personal space to see their reaction) If they don't back up or better yet move closer to you, he/she may WANT to kiss
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