I was wondering why some people, specifically men, love being in a relationship while others enjoy being single. What is it about the single life that makes some people prefer it to being in a relationship?
EZ Dating Coach, Mike Goldstein, went out into the world and I polled single men to try to get to the bottom of it. The thing that kept coming up, time and time again, was that they enjoy the freedom of being single. Another general consensus was that many of them would like to be in a relationship but they didn't want to risk losing that freedom. They like that they don't have to answer to anyone and they can go where ever they want and do whatever they want. They were worried that this would change if they were in a relationship.
This teaches us a lot. Now that we know that the fear of losing their freedom holds a lot of men back from being in a relationship, you can use this knowledge to help put his mind at ease. You can do this by allowing him to make his own decisions. This by no means suggests that you aren't vocal about your wants and needs. It just means that you help him to maintain sight of his wants and needs, too.
You can use this knowledge in lots of different ways. For example, you can encourage your man to go out and have fun with his friends. This stress-relieving male-bonding time is important and it will show him that he can still maintain his friendships and have fun with the guys. You can also let him choose the location of a date by asking him what he's in the mood to do or where he would like to go.
Here is how you can earn double awesome girlfriend points... Let's say you are really craving Italian food. Tell your man that you would love to go to dinner at an Italian restaurant but let him pick which one. This will help him to feel a sense of freedom while also letting him feel like he's making you happy.
Giving your man the freedom that he craves will make him feel happy and comfortable. Show him that being a relationship doesn't mean that he loses his freedom. He has so much to gain in a healthy relationship and he can hold onto his freedom and everything else that he needs to be truly happy.
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