Has this ever happened to you?... You're in a relationship and everything is going great and then BOOM!... He disappears! This is a very common issue. So many women are left baffled when their boyfriend suddenly becomes distant. Do you want to know something else that these women have in common? They all blame themselves or feel anger and frustration toward their boyfriends.
"What did I do wrong?"
"Why is he acting like this?"
"Does he not care about me at all?"
In a panic, they reach out for answers but it only seems to push him further and further away. One of EZ Dating Coach, Mike Goldstein's, friend experienced the same thing. She and her boyfriend have been together for a long time and they were as happy as could be. Suddenly, out of nowhere, her boyfriend disappeared! Worried that something was wrong, she reached out to make sure that he was OK. He remained distant and only seemed to pull away more. That made her worried that she did something wrong. It turned out that it had nothing to do with her. He was stressed out at work and just needed a little space. The issue was solved when Mike helped her to realize that all that she had to do was give her boyfriend the space that he needed.
Men will often detach as a way to try to manage stress. This can feel like a shock to their partner, often leaving them wondering what went wrong. Of course, the first thing you should do is reach out and make sure that everything is OK. Any further questions after that might feel overwhelming to the man who is just trying to relax. Questions that come from a place of genuine love and concern can be seen as naggy and irritating. This may cause frustration, creating a larger problem in the end.
So, what can you do when your man disappears? Reaffirm that you are there for him if he needs you and then give him space. Use this time to connect with other things that make you happy. Everyone deals with stress in their own way. It may feel strange because it is different from the way that you handle stress but try to remember that his being distant has nothing to do with you or your relationship. Give him time and space to work through everything or decompress.
Want to learn more? John Gray, the author of "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus", shares his insights on this topic and delves into how these issues have evolved throughout history in the video below:
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