I am the perfect dating coach to answer this question. I hate to admit this, but I probably go on Facebook 10 times a day for scrolling purposes and I am a man who used to pursue women on Facebook. (I actually got a first date via messaging my current girlfriend on Facebook)
Here is exactly what happens when a woman posts a half naked picture like the one below on Facebook:
1. Man internally says either, "Gross, not attracted to you" or "I want to have sex with you"
If man says the latter, he either keeps scrolling or sends the girl a message.
The "message guy's" only intention right now is what is the fastest and easiest way to get this woman into bed. Even if it comes in the form of "Long time no talk, how are you? What is new" or any variation of this message.
Since we are no longer caveman and can't do the following:
men now resort to a civilized socially acceptable offering of sex.
Now, chances are, you are going to get a few dates from a bathing suit picture. You are going to think, wow, posting these pictures really works. However, what happens on these dates? Does the guy try to take you home in the first night? Although I do believe that men do look for sex and find love while women are the opposite, there is a better way to get a more high quality date through Facebook.
Try a picture like this:
This woman look beautiful and is extremely appealing to most men. Most importantly she is not showing off cleavage, her but, or anything scandalous. She is simply pretty and classy. Her outfit maybe even suggests that she is the girl next door. The girl next door is usually a woman that needs to be courted. She needs to feel special, respected, and cherished. When all these things happen, and she feels comfortable, then and only then can a relationship become sexual.
Bottom line, if you want a husband
Do - Post pictures where you look beautiful, classy, sexy and sophisticated
Don't - Post pictures where you show off skin
I have spent years studying online dating and perfecting the process of selecting photos and writing profiles that reflect exactly who you are so the right people send and respond to your messages. This aspect of my business has been wildly successful and makes up the majority of my client's relationships. However, it has always troubled me when single people/clients relied solely on online dating to find someone to date.
They are missing out on various other ways to meet people. Specifically, meeting people in person. Historically, women when they were interested in someone, would stare, maybe smile and hope the guy would come over and chat. To date, this is considered the best "mouse trap" for getting men.
However, based on my studies I have seen this work about 5 - 8% of the time. Thus 95 to 92% of the time the guy never approaches. I am sorry, but staring is NOT the best mouse trap if the best it can do is get an 8% success rate. Do you agree?
So a few years ago, I racked my brain for something simple that would warrant action from men. Boom! Here it is!
WAVE AT THE GUY!
Now before you think I am crazy, let me explain. If you wave, it forces him to do something. He can either cower in the corner, smile, or wave back. If you want, you can then wave for him to come over.
Why is this fantastic?
1. Shows you are confident (Confidence is rated the #1 Sexiest Characteristic of the Opposite Sex)
2. Men are afraid of rejection - This removes this fear and communicates you 100% would like to be approached
What are the results of the wave?
85% of wavers get a reaction. I am not saying 85% is favorable. But, 85% of the time the waver knew where she stood with the guy based on his reaction.
You can do this at a bar, at the grocery store, on public transit, literally everywhere. If you are shy and scared, try and get over it. This will work. Try New Things. I have tried this thousands of times, via myself, clients, and friends, it is leaps and bounds more successful than the stare.
Have some fun, wave at a stranger, be playful, and have a conversation and see if you have some similar interests. (At a minimum you at least know you are attracted to the person)
Okay, no more reading, Go Get'em Tiger!
Between 2005 and 2012, 33% of all marriages were from online dating. (Survey of 19,131 People)
In 2015, 5% of online dating profiles on one of the largest dating sites were vastly over performing the other 95%. What does over performing mean? It refers to the amount of messages received.
The 5% were receiving 5 to 10 times more messages than the average profile. The 5% were also receiving 10 - 20% increases in the quality of person reaching out. (Quality is based on match % which has proven to increase the likelihood of a couple liking each other and staying together long term)
"Okay Mike, you nerd, what does all this data mean?" Very simply, if you are part of the top 5% of online daters, you are the celebrities of online dating and literally get the pick of litter.
Have you ever wondered what it would be like to be Beyonce? Literally everyone wants you! Well 5% of online daters get a glimpse at what that feels like.
Do you want to be a celebrity and ultimately get access to the most eligible and compatible men?
If you answered yes, then it is time to setup a chat with me. I am the only dating coach in the country with exclusive access to the strategy needed to be part of the celebrity top 5% of online daters.
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