• Mike Goldstein

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Women, men, dating coaches, psychologists, and everyone tells me that men pick up women. Men approach women.

This has been true for a very long time. Today, I offer a secondary option. Strong, confident, successful, beautiful women, (that still make a man feel needed) will come introduce themselves to men they are interested in.

Here is an example dialogue at a grocery store:

Hot Successful Woman: "Excuse me, I think you are cute and wanted to come meet you."

Cute Man: "ummmm, Thank you! How flattering, I am George, what is your name?"

Dialogue continues, eventually phone numbers exchange and George follows up to ask her on a date.

Why do I feel so adamant that women "should be allowed to approach men"?

First off, 21st century, women should be doing whatever the hell they want! Why should a woman need to bat her eyelashes, stare for four seconds, for a guy to maybe muster up the courage to come approach her. It is time for woman to take their dating lives into their own hands.

Why must this happen? Because men, myself included see hundreds of women per day that we think are gorgeous, wife material that we will never approach because we are:

1. Focused on work

2. Scared

3. Focused on getting lunch

4. Inside our own head

5. Don't know how to approach women

Women, it is time to help the opposite sex out, and quite frankly help yourself out. If you approach a man, there is only two possible outcomes.

1. You flattered the guy (He feels like a million bucks)

2. You get a date

My rant continues: For Men!

Men, if you see a good looking woman! Go up to her and tell her. Everyday life is tough, and every girl whether she will admit it or not loves a sincere genuine compliment.

(Do not yell compliments while women walk by)

DO: Intimately say excuse me, and then offer whatever the first thing that came into your brain about the woman's physical appearance.

Now go out into the world, put smiles on strangers faces and GET SOME DATES with people you are immediately attracted to!

June 4th, 2014 - Written by Alli Burg, Marketing Confidence Coach


Relationships are awesome but being single is an absolute blast. You and I, are single by choice. We are considering the right guy that deserves our un-divided attention and until then, we are having a great time free flying.

Dating should be fun, and if you aren’t enjoying yourself, it’s your fault.

I will never claim to be a dating expert, but I truly enjoy myself when it comes to dating and I would like to share my tools with you in hopes that it helps you find more fulfillment and happiness when you are single. Try re-framing dating differently, have a belief that you will find interesting people to get to know. When you start feeling lonely or frustrated that he hasn't shown up yet consider the following tools to help re-focus yourself:

  • The simple answer: Confidence. Confidence really is important. Life is about perception, how you view the world is what you get from it. If you don't view yourself as awesome, how do you expect someone else to? Take some of your alone time to learn a new skill or take that salsa class that you have always wanted to do. It will give you an instant boost of confidence doing things you love. It will also make for some good conversations with new people.

  • The thrill of not knowing. I don't know about you, but when I wake up in the morning I typically enjoy the thrill of not knowing what’s in store for me, or who I will meet that day. Believe that you will meet good friendly people throughout your day; it makes you open up and smile more. Happy people attract happy people.

  • Facing yourself. The best part for me about being single, is the solo one-on-one time to really assess, confront, and embrace aspects of my life that may or may not be working. You only consider yourself in these instances, which can help uncover true and helpful insights. Selfies welcome.

  • Be sexy, but only for yourself. I like to treat myself well when I’m living the single life. Bachelorette silk robe a must. I also totally don't shave sometimes for a week(s).

  • Out and about with whatever your heart desires. Being able to do whatever you want on a beautiful Saturday afternoon is so fantastic. So where will it be? Yoga class, brunch with the ladies, Bushwick Open Studios, Pier 13, bike ride upstate, cobble stones? Bring your camera to document all the cool shit you do.

  • Girlfriends. This is a very special one. When you are single, you rely on your friends for social activities. Some of the most ultimate girl bonding is done between two single friends to be each other’s wing-woman and have each other’s back through thick and thin. Cherish your amazing girlfriends. Send them handwritten cards on holidays.

Cheers to a adventure!

- Alli

  • Mike Goldstein

Are you tired of same boring Friday night out in Hoboken?

Tired of getting drunk at the same bar with the same music and the same outcome?

How about something different?

How about for nostalgic purposes, we reenact The hit MTV game show Single Out? Better yet, how about we find the hottest single girl in Hoboken to be the girl 50 men are attempting to get a date with? (Pics and videos of Alisa or on the facebook event page)


What is Singled Out? Go Here to Watch a Video: Singled Out Video

Yes, I do believe this is a great idea! What all this being said, below are the details:

What: Dating Game Show where 50+ Single Men Attempt to win a Date with Alisa : Pictures and Videos of Alisa will be Posted Weekly. Single Men are invited to sign up to be a contestant. If you are interested please leave a note on this page. Also, please show up at 7PM or earlier to formally register, fill out a questionnaire, and mentally and physically prepare by the means of liquid courage. MAKE SURE TO GET A WRISTBAND AT THE DOOR - There is No Cover and Wristbands gets you discounted drinks! Also there is No Charge to be a contestant. Event will be filmed and short 1 Minute Clips will be posted to my blog: http://www.ezdatingcoach.com/#!blog/c1j0g

Non-Singles are more than Welcome. Singled Out needs a cheering section.

Who: Everyone is welcome to be in the audience. Ladies come early to cheer on as 50+ Single men get whittled down to 1 winner. (49+ Available Single Men!) Single Men, Please Leave a note below to be contestant and have a shot at a date with Alisa and a surprise GIFT!

When: April 4, 2014

Doors Open at 6PM For Dinner and Drinks (Obtain a Wristband for discounted Drinks) 7PM - Male Registration for Game Show - EVERYONE is Welcome to Sign UP

6PM - 8:30 - Happy Hour / Crazy Drink Specials (Will post when I have a list of specials)

8:30PM Game Show Cost: $0 Cover Charge, Must get a FREE Wristband for discounted Drink Specials and to prove you are with EZdatingcoach.com present Singled Out!

Where: Village Pourhouse Hoboken NJ 205 1st Street Hoboken, NJ (Between Park and Garden)

Why: Fun for singles and Non-Singles - Single Ladies, there will be at least 49 single men who don't win the contest. Male Contestants - There will be plenty of single females to help lick your wounds if you don't win the game show. Non-Singles - Come watch the fun and support your single friends. Any Questions? Just ask!

Please RSVP at: https://www.facebook.com/events/810116709017783/?notif_t=plan_user_joined

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