What men want in a partner is 100% different than what women want in their partner.
Women want a man who is:
financially secure and will make them feel taken care of
However, men of course are happy if a woman has those same traits but those are not the big ones for us.
Support without being challenged
Appreciation for who we are
Acceptance for our flaws
Notice, how these three bullets overlap and could almost be turned into one bullet point. Men are simple, and DO NOT need much to be happy.
Very simply, men want a woman who appreciates us for who we are, is not going to try and change us, and when we suggest plans is easy enough to go with the flow. Now, before I make it seem like women should be push overs, I need to clarify. Being easy breezy on minor issues like what restaurant we should eat at is making life easier for a man. However, for major issues, like how many children to have, where to live, men want and expect you to speak your mind. But once again, minor issues, wouldn't it be easier to just let the man take the lead?
Now is that all you need to know to snag a guy? Nope, one more thing. Men are 100% visual creatures. If they don't find you attractive instantly it is NOT going to work. You may call this shallow if you want, but in order to be successful dating, you should just accept this and only bother with men that are pursuing you because they find YOU attractive. However, what should a woman do if she is not initially attracted to a man? My answers leads to a client story.
"Mike, with my last boyfriend I was not attracted to him until about date 10, then after that I couldn't keep my hands off him". This is wonderful and women should give men who are making an effort a fair chance because women are 100% capable of building attraction over time. However, men are 100% not capable of changing their opinion on physical appearance. We are either attracted or not. Thus, do not waste time on men not spending time on you.
On a positive note, men are attracted to almost everything so get ready for them to pursue you. Straighten you hair, lock eyes, smile big, wave them over, and watch them flock.
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The number one question that constantly comes in from my female subscriber base is, I am dating this guy, wondering if we are exclusive and where this relationship is headed?
Before I answer the question, I want to first explain what men are looking for in their future wife. We want a woman that makes our life easier/better and someone we can't keep our eyes off of.
Yes, that is all we need. It is that simple.
When I say someone who makes our life better. This means, a woman who has similar values and hopefully some similar interests. This allows for fun activities to be enjoyed together, and of course when it comes time to raising children, for the most part, major values passed down have already been agreed upon and will not be a constant argument.
Now, on to the question we are ally dying to know the answer to. Is this relationship exclusive and where is it headed? In order to solve this mystery I have created the 90 day rule.
The man has 90 days to ask you to be exclusive. If he doesn't, on the 90th day you will find out with absolute certainty where you stand.
On day 90 you will say the following, "Boyfriend candidate, I really like you. I think you are an amazing person and over the last three months have really enjoyed our time together. Nothing would make me happier than to be in an exclusive relationship with you. With that being said, since you have never asked me to be exclusive I am assuming you are not interested in a monogamous relationship. Thus, since I want a relationship with you, and you clearly don't want one with me, it is only fair that we no longer see each other. I wish you all the happiness in the world, goodbye."
-Drop the mic and walk out.
Now, hopefully what happens is the guy frantically panics and tells you, "Woah, hold your horses. I want you and no one else, let's be exclusive"
However, if he doesn't, leave wherever you are and go home. The boyfriend candidate may call you in a few days and may ask for a relationship. However, if you don't hear from him, you just saved a ton of time dating a guy that was NEVER going to give you what you wanted. Thankfully you only wasted 90 days.
Now I know, many of you think my approach is bold, maybe abrupt, and quite frankly a little terrifying. But, this really is the best way to handle men. Why you ask? Here is why?
Men are usually in one of three places in their life. 1 - They are looking for women to have sex with 2- They are ready for a relationship 3 - If the perfect woman comes by they will drop all other women
If they are looking for a relationship, they most likely with 85% certainty made up their mind on you by the end of date 2 or 3. However, the other 15% is probably figured out by the end of 90 days.
Ladies! I hope a light bulb just went off! Yes, men pretty much know what they want by date 2! I know you probably think this is crazy, because sometimes it can take you 14 - 20 dates, but men are much simpler.
Just to make sure, I explained the process thoroughly, I will answer the question, "Mike, What should I do for the 90 days?"
Simple, have the most fun possible, don't play games, and communicate openly with what you want. Also, make the boyfriend candidate's life fun and don't pressure him at all about a relationship. Wait 90 days and let the chips land where they land.
This strategy will allow men the time to come to the conclusion that YOU are so amazing that he is willing to swear off 3+ billion women on this planet and focus all his energy on wooing YOU!
Final side note: Men find confidence extremely sexy. There is nothing wrong with openly admitting on a first date you are looking for a relationship and eventually want to get married.
Remember, open communication is a quality of a healthy relationship. Also, men want to make their woman happy. If a woman is able to communicate what makes her happy, the man will have a much easier time providing happiness.
If you have questions, leave them below or email me directly at firstname.lastname@example.org
Okay, I am done rambling, Let's Go Find Someone to Love!
Your EZ Dating Coach,
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95% of online dating profiles are ineffective according to the analytics of one of the major online dating sites. I am sure everyone reading this is entirely skeptical of this statistic. However, let me explain why it is 100% accurate. This statistic is not saying, the grammar is poor or the writing is bad.
This statistic is stating, in terms of telling a story that leads to messages, 95% of online profiles are uneffective. Here is why. The Profiles do NOT HAVE Specific Content.
Let me give you an example of a profile that is intelligent, coherent, and is probably from a wonderful person but will NOT receive many messages:
I come from a small town in North Jersey and have enjoyed the small town thing for the most part, but I'm eager to see what else this world has to offer. I admit that I really haven't traveled or experienced as much as I would like to by this point in my life, so I'm hoping to find someone who would like to share is some new life experiences with me. I enjoy going to concerts and being outdoors (really just being active overall). The relationships I have with my family and friends are very important to me. I consider myself to be a loyal friend, daughter, sister, aunt, cousin, etc. I would also say I make a pretty great girlfriend. : )
Now I am going to re-write this so we can all see a more specific profile that will solicit messaging.
I grew up in Basking Ridge, NJ where there was two restaurants in the center of town, 0 chain stores, and Friday night was going to the Bridgewater Mall or going to someone's house. Now, I live in the city and love experimenting on Boqueria's menu or even a good steak at Del Frisco's.
I love concerts and I enjoy going to see Zedd, Kanye West, and his polar opposite Taylor Swift. (Yes, I wish they would make up and go on tour together)
I recently hiked Fort Lee's Historic Park and my bucket list is to climb Machu Picchu. I heard a rumor in the next few years it may not be climbable due to environment changes, anyone know the details around this?
In terms of family, I have Sunday dinner back in Basking Ridge every week and we usually play the card game Rage once every month. My dad almost always wins, I am going to get him one of these days. :)
I also do soul cycle twice a week and then play zog soccer and volleyball year round.
The major differences between these profiles is one tells you who she is, while the 2nd one shows you who the person is with very specific details of what she does.
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