I'm not sure if you've noticed, but I have been writing a bunch of new blog articles each week around a specific theme. This week's theme is "early relationship week." My VP of Marketing has me on a strict schedule and I'm not allowed to deviate. However, this article has nothing to do with any of that.
I'm definitely going to get in trouble for this article. But I HAD TO WRITE THIS because the advice is too valuable.
Today I re-learned an important lesson and wanted to put it down on paper.
Now, please realize this lesson is 100% something I NEED and I am hoping may help you too.
Without further ado, my lesson is to be laser focused when it comes to anything and everything in your life, espcially dating.
Example: My Two Life Goals Right Now Are
1. Help More Clients
2. Workout 6 Times Per Week
ANYTHING that is preventing me from either one of these goals is simply a waste of my time. Thus I need laser focus on accomplishing them.
Now, let's get saucy with some really powerful advice. How can you be laser focused on dating?
This piece of advice is going to change your relationships forever and literally make you the most liked person in ALL YOUR CONVERSATIONS. Yes! It's that good. (Please let me know what you think in the comment section below)
In the next conversation you have, I want you to pretend the information coming out of the person's mouth is literally step by step directions on how to turn water into gold.
So this means you NEVER break eye contact, are nodding intently, asking a ton of questions, and have a look and tone of absolute excitement to be conversing with this person.
I am NOT talking about active listening. I am talking about being the King Kong of listening. No one should be more excited than you!
Why is this going to work?
People love to talk. People love talking even more when their audience is enjoying what they are talking about.
Now, before you think this article is a sham and my advice is garbage try the following.
The next time you run into a casual friend or colleague at work say the following:
"Hi, How are you today?"
"Why just good, why not great?"
I have been doing this for years and have learned so much interesting information that I never would have gotten if I just kept walking past the person.
For example, sometimes people say:
"You know what, I am excellent, I just had an amazing weekend because I went to Yankees game with my new boyfriend"
other times people say:
"Actually, unfortunately my mom just got diagnosed with cancer"
Now, although this is terrible news. This is a great opportunity to be empathetic and build a bond with someone you may not know that well. For all you know this person may sit in his/her cubicle/office all day and never have one person ask about their day.
Once people realize you are a person that actually cares about the answer of, "How are you today?" you will become a person EVERYONE will gravitate towards.
Coming full circle, it is all about laser focus in dating too. If dating is your #1 priority, make sure your date feels that. Focus on your date, focus on the conversation and make that person feel like they are the only person left on the planet.
Once you try some of these practices out, let me know what you think of them in the comment section.