Flirting with men via text is no simple task. There’s a fine line between what you write and how it’s received. When that line is crossed, it’s often because of some misinterpretation of what was said by either him or you.
The biggest reason for these miscommunications is men and women text in different ways. From personal experience, I find men prefer to use texting purely for logistics. Women, on the other can, can carry on high-quality conversations via text.
Basically it’s like a doctor (women) trying to hold a conversation with a 5th grader (men). It's hard for the 5th grader to keep up.
To help my female clients hone their flirting skills when they text, I recommend a few ways to start a conversation that he will want to continue. Hopefully these guidelines help you the next time you want to start a flirtatious digital conversation with your man.
1. Tell them they’re manly
Men love it when women point out a physically masculine characteristic of theirs. It makes them feel strong and primal. It also makes them feel like they are the protector.
Example: “I want your big arms around me right now"
2. Create a mental image
Although most men aren’t great conversationalists via text, they do have a creative imagination. Text them something that will get their mind racing and their heart pumping. That will get them excited to keep the conversation going and schedule the next date ASAP.
He says “What are you up to?”
You respond: "I’m about to jump in the shower and then I’m meeting up with my girlfriends later"
This evokes a mental image and also demonstrates you are on demand, giving him even more reason to schedule the next date soon.
3. Send a picture
Picture messages allow for fun and easy texting conversation. They’re a great way to start things off and keep them going. And no, we're not talking about nudes.
Example: "This sweater would look sexy on you" (Include pic)
This could be a nice sweater, which would start the conversation with a compliment, or it could be an ugly sweater, which would start a fun/flirty conversation. Either way he's more likely to respond to an image than words.
4. Talk about food
Men love food. They love to eat it and talk about it. If you mention a meal you just had, he will probably want to know what restaurant you ate at and what you ordered. This also will also clue him into what food you like and what kinds of places you like to go.
Example: "I just had the most amazing dinner, you would have loved it"
PHDs, you now have more ammunition to school the 5th graders. Happy texting!