No one likes confrontation. We all wish life could be rainbows and butterflies 24/7, but no one is perfect and relationships are not going to be either.
I was sitting down with a friend, and she said, "Mike, I have been dating a guy for 3 months and he is great, but one thing is really bothering me."
"What is bothering you?" - Me
"We make plans, but he is consistently late." - Friend
Well funny enough, I am usually late so this is a problem my girlfriend constantly has to deal with. Thus, I've instructed my girlfriend how to get me to show up on time. Yes, I know that she is using my own little trick on me, and YES IT STILL WORKS!
So, last Friday my girlfriend needed me to be somewhere at 8PM on the dot: We could not be late. She called my on Friday morning and said, "Mike, you will make me the happiest woman alive if you picked me up at 7:15 on the dot so we can be on time at 8PM"
I said, "Sounds good I will be there"
I showed up to her door at 7:13 and she practically jumped me and said, "Thank you so much for being on time. You are the best boyfriend in the world!"
I lit up like a Christmas tree and felt great about myself.
I felt like, I am capable of making my girlfriend happy. Most importantly, I felt like my girlfriend was easy to make happy. All I needed to do was show up on time and all of a sudden I was the best guy on the planet. Now, if I have a girlfriend that is easy to make happy, that is someone I could consider spending the rest of my life with.
However, in contrast, a girlfriend that gets flowers, or a big ring, or is even taken to dinner and does not appreciate the gift or effort is setting herself up for failure. Men do not want to commit to marriage unless they are 100% sure that they are going to be able to keep their woman happy for eternity. Thus, it is vital to appreciate men for the little things they do and make them feel like they are a superhero - at least in your eyes.
If making you happy is simple,the decision of proposing will be too.