(Typical Friday Evening Text Message Convo) Yes, we don't spell out conversation when texting.
"Hey Babe, what are you doing tonight" - Typical Man
"It has been a long week, so cooking dinner and catching up on DVR" - Typical Woman
"Oh, that sounds like fun, may I come join you?" - Typical Man
"Sure!" - Typical Woman
What just happened here? The guy who probably has NOT communicated through spoken word with typical woman all week long has just spent 45 seconds and is now coming over most likely with the intention of trying to have sex. Now, just to be clear, if the woman just wants sex as well, this is the perfect relationship and I am all for it. However, my site is meant to help women that are looking for relationships, monogamy, and expect a higher standard from their man.
So the question is this, what should women do in order to get men away from texting and setting up dates in advance that don't involve minimal conversation and a bedroom.
First, let me explain what NOT to do. Women should not lay down the gauntlet. You should not say, "I hate when you text me, either call me or stop talking to me all together". Nothing turns a man away from a woman faster than aggressive ultimatums.
However, she could say, "Your voice is so manly and I love getting to know you better on the phone. I would have the biggest smile if you would call me on the phone instead of texting"
Now, let's go back to handle the guy who asks you out on a date the same day he calls/texts you. Since, most of you ladies are extremely busy, you already have plans and can't make that date. Assuming you are interested in that guy, here is the appropriate response.
"I am so flattered you want to go out with me. Unfortunately, I am busy tonight, but you would make me the happiest woman alive if you could plan a date a few days in advance."
Ladies, I know my responses sound corny and maybe even contrived. But, please, take me up on my challenge, try these responses and see what happens. If there is one thing I know, it is man. I know exactly how we will respond to these comments. If we like the girl, we will do exactly what she suggested. If we don't like the girl we will disappear immediately. Either way, ladies you get the result you wanted. You either got the date the way you wanted it or you got a guy that is not that interested in you to go away. No need to waste time on men not truly interested in you. Please note, men are visual, they made their mind up about how interested in you they are in the first 10 seconds. (Caveat: Of course men, need much more information to determine if you are marriage material)
HW: If you want, try out my text to phone calls line:
"Your voice is so manly and I love getting to know you better on the phone. I would have the biggest smile if you would call me on the phone instead of texting"
Let me know what happens.
If you are ready to take your dating to the next level and ready to find the man of your dreams that ultimately ends in monogamy. Contact me to express interest in setting up a time for a 100% FREE Strategy Session. You have nothing to lose, but you will definitely get the skills to find and keep a man.
Contact me at email@example.com to express interest in a free strategy session. Please leave a note with your biggest dating frustration so we can immediately start tackling your love life.