June 4th, 2014 - Written by Alli Burg, Marketing Confidence Coach
Relationships are awesome but being single is an absolute blast. You and I, are single by choice. We are considering the right guy that deserves our un-divided attention and until then, we are having a great time free flying.
Dating should be fun, and if you aren’t enjoying yourself, it’s your fault.
I will never claim to be a dating expert, but I truly enjoy myself when it comes to dating and I would like to share my tools with you in hopes that it helps you find more fulfillment and happiness when you are single. Try re-framing dating differently, have a belief that you will find interesting people to get to know. When you start feeling lonely or frustrated that he hasn't shown up yet consider the following tools to help re-focus yourself:
The simple answer: Confidence. Confidence really is important. Life is about perception, how you view the world is what you get from it. If you don't view yourself as awesome, how do you expect someone else to? Take some of your alone time to learn a new skill or take that salsa class that you have always wanted to do. It will give you an instant boost of confidence doing things you love. It will also make for some good conversations with new people.
The thrill of not knowing. I don't know about you, but when I wake up in the morning I typically enjoy the thrill of not knowing what’s in store for me, or who I will meet that day. Believe that you will meet good friendly people throughout your day; it makes you open up and smile more. Happy people attract happy people.
Facing yourself. The best part for me about being single, is the solo one-on-one time to really assess, confront, and embrace aspects of my life that may or may not be working. You only consider yourself in these instances, which can help uncover true and helpful insights. Selfies welcome.
Be sexy, but only for yourself. I like to treat myself well when I’m living the single life. Bachelorette silk robe a must. I also totally don't shave sometimes for a week(s).
Out and about with whatever your heart desires. Being able to do whatever you want on a beautiful Saturday afternoon is so fantastic. So where will it be? Yoga class, brunch with the ladies, Bushwick Open Studios, Pier 13, bike ride upstate, cobble stones? Bring your camera to document all the cool shit you do.
Girlfriends. This is a very special one. When you are single, you rely on your friends for social activities. Some of the most ultimate girl bonding is done between two single friends to be each other’s wing-woman and have each other’s back through thick and thin. Cherish your amazing girlfriends. Send them handwritten cards on holidays.